She wanted me to work out how old she was, she was 56 (my age) – so young!
She sees so much of herself in you but you do worry too much and you do think of others more than yourself which, she laughs, is exactly like her. She loves watching the next generation and how far life has come. Your life is far from over, keep focusing on what you can do please. See every road block as an opportunity to sit down and have a think. She loved tea and you do too.
Your Mum is happy and you need to know that. The ‘afterlife’ is exactly that – after life – it’s different, so keep doing your exercises, smelling the roses and patting yourself on the back. All the things you know you can do but don’t know how, she helps you with.
The child that got her name, her namesake is a very, very lucky child and very, very loved. She is around you because you are her family now and forever.
Her smile is infectious and what she loves the most is how many smiles like hers are around. She held on as long as she could, she really tried and didn’t want to leave you all but the breath just wasn’t there. She is still blown away by how remembered she is and thought of by so many, daily – a huge thank you.
I haven’t missed anything really, you all have done exactly what I wanted and hoped – ‘lived’. I’ll always love your Dad, he was my light through the dark and I’m so glad he’s happy. Yes, we wanted to grow old together but at least I got to stay young (she chuckles).
My beautiful girls, how do I speak to one over the other, I just can’t, I’m so proud of you both. You’ve given your Dad a run for his money. I was exactly the same. You don’t conform, I was exactly the same. You try to fix everyone, yip, I was the same. She’s making me look at my wedding ring as if you still have hers, she loves that there is still so much of her around. Please, when you can, travel more, let me see the world through your eyes. I’m always there just like I promised I would be.
I love you all so much, never ever doubt that, I’m there, I’m always there even when you miss me the most, I’m right there, just feel the warmth behind you, you’ll know it’s me.
Please tell Dad, it’s great to get to know his Mum and I’m with my Gran and Grandad, we have great chats. This afterlife is comforting and you hear me and I love that, thank you. Finally stop worrying about the future, focus on right now. That’s what. I had to learn, be present and the rest takes care of itself. Merry Christmas.
Alan is quite direct and a little bossy but actually in a really good assertive way. He says that you need that right now. You need some emotional support that stops you worrying quite so much. He sees now just how young he was, he only wishes he’d been able to make more of it. He wants you to know he loved you, more than you ever knew and he’s sorry if it didn’t show.
He’s with his Mum and Dad and that’s been good for them all to reconnect. Don’t let the love fade in your heart Penn, you need to do what makes you happy everyday. Life is too short for regrets. You will travel again but for now, just focus on getting better. Eat well and exercise and most importantly look after your mental health, only have friendships that are in your best interest, it’s got to be all about you!
She is thrilled I have picked her out. She loves this picture. She says she looks so well.
Now, now – you have to stop worrying and fretting dear, things have a wonderful way of working out, not always as we think but always as we need them to. She has made me look at the date just to show me it’s just over a year since she passed. She knows it’s still heavy on your heart some days but she wants you to know she’s ‘happy’. She has so many people to get reacquainted with, it’s been lovely.
She tells me to tell you, “you aren’t to worry about how things ended”. She did pass peacefully and that’s all that matters, never forget that. She’s with her Dad and her husband and that brings her so much happiness and she wants you to be happy about that too.
Please enjoy this Christmas, last year was hard but this year you have no excuse XX
He made me feel like he was going to burst into a song. I think he liked his music and thought he could sing, he’s laughing at me now.
Life has thrown you so many curve balls but you just keep going. This latest one is no different. You will get through this, a little bit wiser and a lot healthier. So please stop worrying. Start to take each hour and each day as it comes. There is no point in worrying about tomorrow as tomorrow never comes. It’s important to love what you do work wise, so keep up the good work and you will continue to enjoy it.
Have a holiday around June time, you’ll be able to and you’ll be ready for it. Remember I’m only a heartbeat away and will help you whenever you ask.
Happy Christmas you! It’s been a while, sorry about that. Anyway – love, live, laugh – that was my motto, keep it yours too.
Love that you were there for me, wish we’d had more time really, we could’ve done so much more. I’m enjoying watching all your antics, but do yourself a favour, stop doubting yourself. You always were amazing, just remember that, OK.
Keep thinking of me, I’m always listening, so glad you’re happier now though. This Chris, do what you know I would’ve done!!! Happy Christmas X
Well, well, well the world is a very different place now. Everything’s changed yet I still recognise you all. I’ve got a few friends here now which is good for me but maybe not for you. Life is busy is it not? When do you stop? You’re just like your mother!
I know you’ve been upset lately and yes, it is me who keeps sending the signs for you, so you’re not going daft. You are a big softie tho’, like me – I was honest. You keep saying you didn’t really know me, well actually you did and you do. I live and breathe within so many of you – looks, humour, personality, grumpiness – Ha Ha.
Oh my Michelle – Mich, hello, well you have done it hard haven’t you? I’m sorry I had to leave you but we both know it was for the best.
Do you know, to this day I didn’t know, truly what a beautiful daughter I had raised. I mean, you know I was always proud of you but well, you’ve done such amazing things and your ‘heart’ – well it’s like mine was, full and huge, well done. I just couldn’t be more proud.
You did so, so well at the end, thank you, I was fine. I was packing up to go on an amazing journey and you helped me pack. I had everything and everyone I needed, so thank you. I know there’s still stuff you want to let go of yet can’t. Well ‘what’s the rush, leave it for your kids’ and she laughs.
I tell you what, I’m so glad I got out before all the virus nonsense, it makes no sense really, it’s a lot of hype about very little but it shows the Government what control they actually do have doesn’t it?
I think I miss the hugs and chats the most and family (eye roll) get togethers – they are always OK in the end but the organising, well, you know.
I’d like you to keep planning the next 20 years my love and just focus on you and yours, you can’t help everybody now can you? Remember to look after you.
You know spiritually, now that’s the way to go isn’t it. You keep that up even more. I love watching you even when you doubt yourself, I just laugh and put my arm under your elbow and remind you – you can do it, come on now.
She keeps talking and making reference to a brother or your brother – she says they are a bother and not to bother, just do what “YOU” think, never mind anyone else, it’s OK.
Apparently there’s more babies on the way and she’s grinning, you’ll be surrounded, happy and exhausted all in the same breath.
She wants you to look after your physical health especially your breathing, if we can’t breathe we can’t function so look after yourself please – do what you are told. Hubby has to watch his back and left hip/waist. Massage him, deep tissue and then balance him even if he rolls his eyes.
She has to go now but never ever forget what she told you at the end and never doubt it. She is always, always right by your side.
All my love
Mum X
P.S. Happy moving, someone is moving home at last!
I actually love this picture he says, especially the t-shirt.
Even though I was going through hell, I never wanted it to stop. I can hear his laugh and feel, what a kind, generous and warm hearted man he was. (He say I’m making him blush). He had a great sense of humour too. You are so like him, he loves it. Trouble is you don’t see it, so next time you are feeling sad, look in the mirror, you’ll see me staring right back at you.
He says, you have some choices to make right now. Go with your gut instinct, it’s what we are designed to do, to keep our species safe. We are part of the animal kingdom, so know your intuition.
Keep telling my stories, I love listening, they never get old. Speaking of which, yes, you will be old one day but that day is not today. Today is for living. Live, live, live while you can. Make your bucket list, not because life is over or ending but because you are alive and can. Take me to see Ayres Rock!, the heart of the world.
Love you all so much and I’m so proud of everyone at the moment. See you again, love chatting to you. Merry Christmas Dad XX
Well, isn’t this something, hello my love, how are you? I know, I know, up & down and up & down. You’re strong, you always were, you’re like my mother.
I’m so grateful for everything you did for me, so grateful. I’m not just talking about when I was older but all of my life. No matter what happened we always had each other and I’m so glad. So you’re going to be a Granny/Nana, you’ll love it when it happens, you’ll see.
Now, you had to stay positive & motivated, just keep doing, even little things everyday, not just for others but for yourself too. She shows me you will be travelling again soon and she’s coming with you this time.
I’m happy I’m with Dad and there’s plenty for me to do. I’m always trying to getyour attention. Butterflies, the big one’s, that’s me. Get the house finished off and keep living, it’s a long time for you ‘til we meet again but I’ll be here, always.
Well I bet you weren’t expecting this when you got up today.
Hello, well I did love Christmas so I suppose the picture says it all. You’re a good girl, you always were, even as a teenager, you told me everything, I really didn’t have to worry. At the end you were amazing , you knew exactly what to do so thank you.
It’s been a while, lots has changed. Covid (she laughs what a joke) Still it’s important to follow rules I suppose. Everyone is growing up so fast. Thanks for looking after your Dad, keep on top of the menopause won’t you and your sister, you’ll get through it don’t worry.
I’m grateful for the life I had and the way I left it was fine, I really didn’t suffer so don’t worry, it’s like having the best night’s sleep ever. Thanks for all the photos and for keeping me alive in your memories. I hope this makes your day.
Awww hello everyone. I was right at the back and had to push my way forward.
Right now, what a lovely picture of me laughing. You are so like me you know, all the things you love about me and miss are all part of you too. What an exit, all that was missing was a fanfare and she laughs.
Thank you for all you did and all you have done since, you never give up, thanks. You could do with a rest though, so make sure you take time to put your feet up these holidays. Mums orders. Where ever you go, what ever you do, I’ll always be on your shoulder watching over you.
Sorry I left you too soon. Sucks really but no point in dwelling on what’s in the past. You taught me that.
Thanks for putting me on here, hope this is a Christmas surprise you won’t forget. I’m out of pain, that’s the best thing but Mum, you’re still in pain. I’m OK, honest I am. You know I’ll see you again. You know I’m still with you everywhere (even round your neck). Mum, please do your best again, that’s what you told me. Do your best to live. I want to watch you grow old but happily and old. You know I’m there so keep talking to me, I’m always listening. I won’t though if you don’t start getting out more and living properly again. See I can tell you what to do now.
OK, love you to the moon and back, Mum.
Merry Christmas, talk again soon,
Lots of love Josh X
(He made me feel like his spelling was really bad and he was glad I was better)
She loves this photo almost as much as you do and she still says you are beautiful inside and out. She’s been reunited with so many people, she says it’s remarkable and it would blow your mind who’s here.
The blue she is wearing ‘is’ her favourite colour. She’s grateful everyone remembers so much about her. She just got older and her body shut down, it’s a shame but it happens.
She’s left a loving family behind and she’s glad she was a part of it. She saw so much in her life but still not enough. She’s encouraging you to keep getting out there and putting yourself everywhere and travel, travel, travel because what you see, she’s sees too. Not a moment goes by when she doesn’t miss you and think of you all. Her funeral was wonderful, just her to a ‘T’ – thank you all from my heart for such an amazing send off.
P.S. She met her Dad and she begins to tear up when she tells me that. She missed him and Grandad so much.
Kath pushed her way right to the front and would be Dec 1st if I’d let her, it’s so funny! She’s very impatient and feels like she has too much to say to everyone. She actually prefers pushy and then laughs at me, she liked things how she liked them. Life is supposed to be easy but everyone makes it so hard these days. All we need is a warm bed, food on the table and people who genuinely love you, that’s all you need. That’s what I’m most grateful for. There’s so much to see on your own doorstep, remember that.
She’s showing me a little ballerina, she loves watching all the dancing, it’s a bit too much but she loves how happy they all are in their own little worlds. She’s sitting down with her feet up, everyone has an expiry date but you’re never ready for it, it’s OK, it’s the easy part, no matter how it works when we pass, it’s easy.
She’s with a man now, I just heard a ‘J’ sound, maybe Jim? Anyway she says she or he can hear now, so no more shouting.
You need to put your chin up, there is a huge open door out there for you and you are looking the other way, well sometimes, please turn and face it, face it all, there is so much for you to do and see. You have to lead by example that’s who you are, lead and others will follow. Your dust and kids toys will always be there ‘til they move out so best to do something you love now. I promise I’m helping, lots of people are, even Grandad.
A girl’s weekend away is just what you ALL need – 4 days, no kids, just grown ups – Bliss!
You have something of hers, feels like a Christmas ornament, or someone does and she loves how remembered she is all the time, the love you all feel for her is exactly what she feels for you, nothing has changed, keep talking to her, she loves it!
Your youngest sees her too or feels her most, you’ll get what she means, keep up all the voodoo, she loves it. I love her sense of humour, her love, her passion, grace – ‘apparently’ you are like her! No arguments, she won’t stop talking.
All of you should have a reading with me to talk to her. OK all my love now and always Aunty Kath XX
P.S. She is such a talker, oh my goodness, she says they will be pulling her off stage with a big stick.
She quite literally is taking my breath away, my chest feels heavy and it’s hard to breathe and I am tight in my throat and there’s a heavy cough. I’m sorry she says really I am – you’ve had to endure so much without me. I’m watching, of course I am, where else would I be if not right there with you.
Now, you know I’m at peace, you know I’m OK but what you don’t know is that I miss you as much and as often as you miss me. Yes I do. You’ve been making a few big choices and I want to thank you for listening to that voice in your head – that’s me, well done!
I could’ve done so much more and you need to make sure you are too. I’m not missing a beat so you still can’t hide anything from me, so there. I’m happy being cooler, I never really loved the heat but anyway the wedding I missed was terrific, really beautiful. I feel as if there are a couple she’s missed and one in the making.
A little boy sees her, he’s very little but he sees her so trust him when he says so. I’m not lonely but I just miss your hugs and our chats and fights – well disagreements.
Love you all X
Merry Christmas and thank you for keeping me and my traditions going.
What a beautiful man, I’m not surprised you wanted to hear from him. Can I just say he’s still a cheeky Charlie, always has been, always will be. He liked a tipple but not a big drinker. He was so sad when he lost his Mum but now he’s with her and was so glad to see her.
Well, he says, life goes on doesn’t it? Who knew so much would change with you all. He made me work out his age because he was just too young to go. There was too much to see and do, not that anyone will be going anywhere anytime soon. I miss you all so much but I’m pleased life has continued exactly as it should do. It’s important you look after yourself and not run yourself ragged, too many people relying on you, you have to stop and look after you, remember you are no good to anyone if you fall apart. There are too many people relying on you so stop and remember this.
My rose quartz heart crystal on my table has been vibrating the whole time I’m connecting with your Dad he’s so, so keen to let you know how loved you are. Look after each other right now, it’s like war time all over again he laughs. Seriously, remember to laugh and have fun, that’s how we got through the war, we kept laughing and having fun.
Love all the pictures you put on here, thank you and I’m sorry it took me so long to get a message to you.
Love to everyone and please do what makes you happy.
Seriously thank you! You were my friend, we laughed, we cried, we got frustrated but you were always there and I never told you enough, sorry.
Life’s not so bad, it was pretty grim at the end I guess but yeah it’s not that bad. I’ve been waiting to talk to you for ages. Not really to say much but just to remind you you’re not alone, I’ll still bug you.
Alice is desperate to know; why the chickens but I’m keeping her guessing. He’s a joker but I can feel his heart of gold and generosity to a fault (not like the Scots and he laughs – I’m reminding him I do this for free!)
He has a great sense of humour and says you are taking life a bit too seriously at the moment. It’s time to switch gears and change things around a bit. Someone’s getting or got married recently or since he passed, he was sad he had to miss it but he was still there, it was a great day.
He tells me you’ve got some travelling to do so best you get on with it!
Happy Christmas and thanks for putting me here – famous at last eh!
Hey look after my family, they were my family, they were my world, make sure everyone treats them right. You always got me and I’m grateful for that, we shared laughs and I didn’t realise just how lucky I was ‘till just recently, so cheers. You make sure my boy has all he needs please and look after my girl. I’m OK, really, I am still in shock to be honest, you really never do know when your last day will be, so live life OK, all of you. I could’ve been funnier, happier, healthier but you know what nah! Wouldn’t change a thing. Just remember me with a glass half full and I’m watching over you all. He says someone (a male) needs to lose weight, he’s laughing that I actually wrote that! He loved his ‘WIFE” in inverted commas, I really did, she’s a head case but she’s my nutcase and I’ll always love her, catch you later X
Now that is a smashing picture, thank you, I’m so glad it’s still around and now it’s on the internet.
He sounds a bit wheezy and there is tightness in his chest – he wants you to know he didn’t feel he suffered at all – he’d like to have lived a lot longer but well, at least he lived.
He’s just worked out it’s been 21 years give or take since he left you all and well, so much has happened he hardly recognises things but to see you put him on here, well he’s honoured.
What a nice man, quiet but fun and honest – he wants you to know he’s not alone, there are plenty of people keeping him company now and he loves it.
Your house looks different and he loves that. You deserve it. He’s lost count of grandkids and great grandkids now, he laughs. He wants me to remind you to smile more, he says your whole face lights up when you do and you know you’ll meet again, so chin up. Keep living then you can tell me all about it one day. Miss you, love Dad.
He liked his food. I feel like I’ve had the wind knocked out of me and it wasn’t intentional. I feel lost somehow. He says my Mum misses me, I know that. He’s not a big talker but he does love you and it kills him when you are so upset. He gets it but it’s hard for all of you. He definitely learned his lessons fast and he’s OK. He likes where you live and he loves seeing you smile, please try more often. He’s making a reference to a tattoo and coughs. He’s pleased and surprised.
He says Gran says, “Hello” and “not to worry”, he’s keeping everyone on their toes. He was shy and confident, a real combination, a real battle in his head some days. He was too young to go but then he doesn’t need to worry about getting there on top! He can keep his hair now!
Happy Christmas everyone and thanks for putting me on here, I appreciate it Mum.
Well I’d have been 30 now, do you feel old Mum? My soul just wasn’t ready I’m afraid, I was ready to have you in my life but not the way you imagined, you see I’ve seen so much more this way and learned so, so much more, it’s been amazing for me. I’m sorry it’s been harder for you, but deep down you knew that didn’t you?
You’ve lived and are living a good life and I love watching and being part of it. Having me on here is amazing, thank you, all of you! My eyes are like yours but my colouring is still my Dad’s.
I would’ve been short lols, yes I would’ve but hey who cares, I’m part of everything now and I love it. He makes me feel the deep connection we all, as human beings have, it’s actually amazing. He’s an amazing soul that one day you will be reconnected to.
She’s telling me off for eating lunch whilst I’m doing this. Meal times and food were important to her. She also doesn’t like the look of my tomatoes !!!
“Look, I miss my family, they miss me. I hope I’m still helping, I try every day to help”. She shows me her Mum and tells me that she has lots of family, lots, lots here and there. They all make her proud. She loves her family and would do anything to help.
Life was very hard but she enjoyed it all and yes maybe she would complain a little too much. She says to say she likes your hair but you probably still won’t believe her. Someone passed with or has had breast cancer but she’s glad it’s over now. Keep up the family Christmas traditions and please rest more – don’t be like me, I never sat down, that’s not always a good thing. It’s good to be with your thoughts sometimes.
She mentions coming to you in your dreams, she loves seeing you there. I’ll talk again, she says, come see me. Give all the grandkids a hug from me. All my love, Mum X
Thank you for holding me so close all these years. I felt part of the family.
You know Mum, you have everything you need inside you, just look at what you have created ‘yourself’, you’re doing great. Stop worrying. You have lots more Grandchildren to meet and so much more to do and see.
Travel, ahh that will be back on the cards, maybe 2025 but at least it’s still there for you. The world isn’t as mad as you fear, just trust the process and keep your self healthy.
Well done, you never congratulate yourself enough, well done, what a life you’re living, remember that – ‘living’. I’ll always be watching over you, it’s exactly where I wanted to be.
Wow, you’re good to put me on here, thanks. Not sure about the picture and he gives his cool, shy smile. He likes to be centre of attention but in a subtle way, he kept his emotions very close to his chest and few people really knew what he was thinking (he is making me work hard). He felt healthy when he passed as ironic as that sounds. Troubles perhaps, but healthy.
I feel like a wedding band is missing from his hand somehow, he really doesn’t want to talk about himself yet, he just wants to check in and say hello. There’s so much to miss, so many people to talk to, yet all he wants to say is take care of my Mum and I love you. He’s quite emotional now but he’s OK and he promises he is in good hands, please make every moment count for him because he couldn’t.
She feels very, very, matter of fact – she liked things how she liked them and my handwriting is important to her right now. She ‘loves’ this photo she says she was so well here so thank you for choosing this one. She’s made me feel there’s a house move on the horizon and she’ll follow wherever you go, she can find you no worries. She wasn’t sure or she was very careful about people like me but she says to tell you, you can trust this one! I feel she is connected to someone who had or has breast cancer and that’s all OK with her now. She’s asking you to look after yourself please just like you took care of her. Slow everything down a bit, start to enjoy things again please, no more excuses, life is to be lived not observed please. I love this wall it’s much nicer than a cemetery and much warmer so come read my message as often as you like and you’ll know I’m right beside you. I mean where else would I be anyway. Love Mum
P.S. Remember slow down, life’s not a downhill ride it’s a roller coaster and you can get off every now and again and just watch.
Well, she will do just about anything to get your attention, she drew me straight away to her date of passing, then made me work out her age to show me she is the same age as me. This is her way of saying, see I was too young, she felt young, felt alive, never thought she would go so young but…….. and she stops and has a tissue….. she knows you are all OK and life has to go on but she misses you ‘all’ so much (even the annoying ones and she laughs) It’s a cool picture she is so glad that’s the one you chose even if she does look like something out the 80s – Well I was she says and laughs! She wants you to know that children come and go and you have to be ok with that. You give then life, a roof, food and love and they will still leave and yet they do the same as you’ve taught them elsewhere and that’s OK, she sees that now. Can you tell Dad I’m OK, even if It’s not quite where I thought I was heading I’m OK. I’m happy when I watch you all. Going through my stuff was fun ‘hey’ she laughs, its only stuff it comes and goes but it’s what’s in your heart about me that is yours and on one can ever take that away or change that. Now listen up, you have to move on, I mean I have, pretend I’m on an extended holiday and one day in the distant future we will catch up and wow we will have so much to talk about BUT only if you keep living, so my message from “the cemetery that talks back” is please keep living and enjoying every step, every mouthful, all of it ‘til…… We meet again! I love you Mum X
He’s not 100% sure what his Mum will think of this and he laughs. He was a shy boy ‘til you got to know him. He loved you like a sister – sorry he says but it’s true. He says, You guys used to laugh so much. I feel like he had a pain in his stomach and sadness around him and a panicking when he left. His life was cut short but he says ‘hey’ I get to come back and try again! He’s actually excited about that too. He says to stay beautiful and never stop putting you first, you are so bad at looking after everyone else before you, time to STOP that and get on your own train!
See this picture? This is my kiss to you this Christmas and all Christmases. I loved Christmas and still do but only if you smile and laugh with me.
Just think I never get any older it’s great – no botox, no crows feet, no grey hair anywhere (she laughs) so be happy for me that I went in my prime – it’s what I wanted really.
You don’t always listen – you could do with listening – people are only trying to help you move on. So make sure you do. You have a great heart share it. I still enjoy Breakfast, it’s still the best time of the day, she’s laughing and laughing that I actually wrote that. Merry Christmas enjoy and stay sober!!! Ha Ha Ha xxx
Hey there – he tells me he liked music, I think he was good at music he’s enjoying my son playing the piano in the background as I speak to him. Life was pretty dark towards the end of his life or life has been pretty dark since he passed. He wants you to know you are doing really well and he loves it when you smile, never be scared to smile or to feel he’s missing out because he says I see everyone Mum and everything. Thanks for being such a good Mum I was lucky and I love you for doing what you could and what you did. I’m getting on with what’s next and you need to as well. He makes me feel like he has a younger sister he misses he then laughs – yes misses. He misses you all and says you should all take rest, stop working so hard. Life is short, much shorter than you know so please enjoy it because I’m still hanging around sitting on the sofa being annoying lols. Get up to speed with technology Mum you don’t want to be a dinosaur now do you. I love you and I’m watching so best behaviour xx
He was talking about moving and says just take him with you cos he doesn’t care where you live as long as he’s there too!
Pick me, pick me, she says. Oh that’s such a great photo, you know I love it too.
I’m so glad I didn’t have to put up with that virus and masks, God what a pain.
How are you? Oh wait, I’m supposed to tell you. You’re doing fine, you could of course be living life a bit more. Yes, it’s winter but trust me, when you’re gone there are so many things you will wish you could do. Guess what? You can still do them. Please live for me, laugh at me, for me, enjoy yourself, more.
You have had to make a few tough decisions. You know what? You did great. You are awesome still. Everyone is growing up so fast, please let everyone know I haven’t missed a thing. I’m always there when you need me most, always and I agree with all the “good” decisions LOL.
Someone still has her phone to listen to her voice, it makes her tear up, she loves it and misses you all, so so much. Take care beautiful, til’ we meet again and you’ve got grey hair and I don’t.
Hello my love, well I had to shout pretty loud to be heard, but here I am. How are you? He had a very good sense of humour and I think he’s taking the micky out my accent and trying to trick me! He says things have definitely shifted since he left. You’re doing fine, do you know that, really good and you look great. You still don’t give yourself enough credit for all you do and you still don’t give yourself enough time either. I was sad to leave, really sad but I’m not sure I realised just how good I had it ‘til I was gone. He misses his music so keep playing it – OK he says just the ones you like are fine, but please bring some love and life back into your life. You are a lot better than when I first passed I’ll give you that. See even a compliment too, but just keep going, you have got lots to do yet so keep having fun and no feeling guilty. Love you to the moon xx
Hello Hello, how could I wear that dress, she laughs it’s the best photo of me. I am so alive. You have my smile I’m glad, that means every time you catch yourself smiling it’s a smile from me.
Now you are not listening to your own advice are you! What’s good for others is always good for us. I had so much love to give and so do you so please go give it and lots of it.
I miss all the sparkles at Christmas,, so get the glitter and glitz out will you – why not! There’s a little girl she loves and watches over, she says thank you. I’m so proud of all of you each and every one.
I feel like she had cancer and a few other complications, she laughs at complications and “yes just a few I my life”
Her love is huge, she feels SO alive and content and filled with happiness to be given this 5 minutes. Love again Mum X
You daft “B****r, you said hello and goodbye to me everyday for over 40 years or was it 50, then he laughs, why would once matter – so stop it – I’m having a good time – I miss you but you’re miserable, was I really that much fun –jeeze! Ok I’ve to be serious so here goes:
Lorraine not a day has gone by when I don’t think of you and pop in to say Hi but being so lost, lonely and sad doesn’t suit you my love, you really, really have to brighten yourself up, get the house painted like you want, have a big clear out, trust me there is no need for it here so you might as well sort it out now, you’ll feel better and lets face it, it won’t bring me back.
Thank you for all the years, you were good to me and I didn’t always appreciate it but I do now love.
Now when it’s your time to join me I wanna hear all about the fun you had, all the things you did, I don’t want you to still be talking about how much you missed me and how sad you were – I know you missed me and how sad you were. I know that coz I feels the same. I want you to enjoy your life, that’s all there is and please eat better and you will feel better OK?
Well he’s run out of room now ha ha ha so bye for now SMILE
Geez that’s a good picture – smiling and a beer thanks! Wasn’t too ugly was I. Damon has a heart of gold and would do whatever he could for anyone, even give his last cent if it would help!
He’s sorry it ended your fairytale (he laughs) he really is really really sorry – it wasn’t supposed to be that way.
My body feels really sick, horrible stickiness and sick. He says there was nothing to be done, he had to go. I feel like he left a little boy that’s so like you, yet you say he is so like him – so he’s like both of you. He’s left a dog too in fact – Hell he says I left my life too abruptly. You will all get through this one day at a time, remember all the firsts will be his firsts too, we’ll get through them together. I’ll hold your hand now, every step of the way. Keep smelling me (his clothes you still have and aftershave or deodorant), talking to me for as long as you need to and when you’re ready move on, I’ll still hold your hand. Be you and be awesome and crazy (like the tattoo)
Love you, love you, love you. Oh I miss you, I love you so much. You are so like me it’s crazy. Please, please love everything and everyone, even people who hurt you, love them and let them go. Pain and suffering just get in the way of joy. Drink more water, it’s good for your skin.
I talk to you everyday, I promise, always have done, always will do. I’m so proud of the woman you’ve become and are becoming, you’re amazing. Just keep living. It’s not been that long for me, honestly. There are plenty of people here I know and animals – ha ha ha.
Watch the time you spend on all this technology, it truly is bad for your eyesight. If your jobs not right, change it, there’s plenty of time still, in fact, way too much to spend it unhappily. She makes me feel someone’s around her who has been or is on a cancer journey, she’s not ready for him yet, so don’t worry.
She mentions a sister and asks you to give them a big hug from her. Have the best family Christmas ever. I love the family celebrations. Use video (ha ha ha) if you can’t see everyone in person (like I know what I’m talking about, she says).
Oh well here’s a turn up – a lottery win for me and laughs. I feel like his body really fell apart at the end he just couldn’t hold it together. My breathing feels weird too.
He was a good man, he says I’m with Mum now so we’re all happy. 20 years, time has really flown, and look at you! What a worrier you can be, let me do the worrying and you have the fun please. You know life is too short for worries.
I’m so pleased everyone moved on, yet I’m still included – thank you.
He mentions briefly a cog he has now and is taking good care of it.
Enjoy another holiday – he loves them as much as you. Never worry about the past or fear the future, it’s a waste of time – stay in the moment, it’s a gift – that’s why they call it the present (he loves that saying and wants you to remember it) Love to Mum and everyone, still too many to mention
Dad
PS Yes I would’ve loved being a Grandad you’re right!
Hello dear she says, giving me a lovely, lovely gentle hug – what a gorgeous lady, inside and out, although she says not really at the end. She explains the end of life bit is nonsense she didn’t like it at all and to see you in so much pain upset her. She loves that you chose this picture really loves it, she says she always liked to look her best for you.
Now you are staying way too still, I’m gone she says but I’m not blind. It’s time you were enjoying yourself again please. Enjoy for both of us, you can do this.
I’m OK – I’ve met quite a few of the old rellies and actually quite enjoyed it. She says she was glad she slipped away, no pain at the end, nothing, just slipped away, says it was easy. Then, well, this whole world opened up for her where she could see everything and do anything and that’s what she wants for you. Please live, keep living and love everyone for me and never stop talking about me, I’m always listening, always.
Good morning Sis, bet this has wakened you up. You never really were a morning bird.
What a lot of chaos around, stop fretting, it’s a storm in a teacup, it’ll all blow over. Just do what you need to. He’s showing me a memory of the 2 of you hiding because you think you’re in trouble again. You are really little, it’s like you are hiding behind a sheet that’s hanging up. It’s a lovely cute image. He says, please remember the good bits of your life, focus on what you can change and can do right now, not what you can’t.
He’s so proud to be part of the family and is very glad you all still talk to him and include him. He’s always felt included, thank you. He says to water the trees in the storms, don’t put off getting a tidy up in your gardens, may be especially Mum’s.
He loves you so much and what he wouldn’t give for you to hear him as I am, he says I deserve a million dollars (I’m blushing). Anyway he’s doing well and so are you, head up.
“oh” she says is it my turn, is it me? Good. She feels like she has finally got a lot to say, and this 5 minutes won’t cut it! So for now, you all did me proud and I couldn’t be happier, thank you still too much but thank you. I feel out of breath but very matter of fact, and it had to happen eventually. She’s happy with her Dad again, and Oh my Dad the stories we’ve told and she laughs. Someone around her has terrible hayfever , she feels for them and sorry she can’t help now.
So remember cherish every minute, get on with your life, I’m not going anywhere just yet, we’ll wait for you don’t worry. Just look after your joints please and do it now, don’t wait like I did.
I feel like she is worried about a man she left behind, she loved him so much and the love isn’t going anywhere! Happy Christmas enjoy your turkey and she laughs Love MumX
Oh she says, I loved that jacket thank you, but not as much as I loved the little man that’s around now he’s gorgeous!
So how are you all doing without me? Well I’ll tell you, GREAT I watch you all with pride and tears in my eyes. I miss you all just as much as you miss me yes, but life goes on. Someone’s moved house she says, she’s really glad, it was time.
She says she looked good at the end thanks to you and it wasn’t an easy task she knows. Please kiss her grandchildren and thank them for always remembering her, it makes her so proud and happy. I feel like someone got a great report recently and she says well done!
So now, you need some TLC, go out, get your nails done, have a massage, a facial and just imagine I’m there with you, because I am – OK.
She feels like a very organised and structured lady and would love you to be more like her (she can’t believe I wrote that) I feel like your Dad or her husband is still around and she sits with him all the time so don’t worry so much (even if there is too much dust)
Right she says best go lots of children to teach today, she says to tell you she hangs out with all the little kids and loves it.
Well, oh my God, this is the most patient I’ve ever been in my life or even afterlife, he jokes. In this picture he feels like it’s an old head on young shoulders. Just like you, he says, just like you! You have to trust yourself girl, you can’t trust anyone else but you, not in a bad way but in a way that only you truly know what is best for you remember.
So, nearly 20 years for you but feels like 5 to me. I love that you still tear up when you think of me and I love that you still ask. Wonder what Dad would say? Well, I’ll let you into a little secret (he’s a real storyteller), it’s always exactly what you do, do. So you’re more like me that you think.
If you watch the sugar, the arthritis will get better, just saying………I’m so happy now the family have grown, I think there could be more happy get togethers but that’ll change. Remember, note to you all, it’s not what you say but ‘how’ you say it. He just showed me an apple, ‘oh and an apple a day keeps the doctors away’. Look at your supplements, you are a bit too acidic, you need to eat more to be balanced, alkaline in your body – check out what is more alkaline, see I’m helping.
Hey how are you? I’m all good, safe, warm and happy – miss you all and the crazy things I did but still miss you. It’s not so bad this eternity thing and no I’m not too hot (he laughs really loudly he’s meaning he didn’t go to Hell after all) So he asks what’s up? He wants you to know life is supposed to have its challenges, you, maybe having your fair share but you’ll get through it. Give your Mum a hug for me he says. Give my kids my love too. I wasn’t a saint, lots of things I could’ve done better I know. I did my best and that’s all you can do.
He wants someone to stop smoking, he knows he’s not one to ask but please stop, you’ll be glad you/they did. Save the money and go on holiday.
I’m always there watching over you all, but you know that – he talks about his Mum like he died before her but she could be with him now, as is his Dad, so he’s not alone ever and neither are you guys. Please be good for your uncle (ha ha ha) and get that new job, its time. X
Well it’s been a while hasn’t it? Did you know I have not missed a thing. Even when you were getting up to mischief, I was watching, tutting and shaking my head. I know my leaving affected you most, I’m sorry but I had to, it meant I could watch over you more, I just didn’t know that at the time.
What a life you lead and are leading, I’m so proud of you. Every time and I mean, every time you think, I wish mum was here or I wish mum could see this – well, I get so frustrated because I’m right there beside you! I’m so glad you put me on here, you know the messages come not always when you when you want them but always when you need it most.
Thank you for my grandchildren (she seems to be showing me a little boy), he’s just like you but she also loves his mum. Also there’s a granddaughter that’s like her, even named after her, she loves that, keeping family traditions alive. She knows you had some heartache but promises it will all be over soon.
Merry Christmas to you all and to you, my beautiful boy.
He comes through struggling with breath, he was always a really, really busy man, never sat still and it’s like by me saying his name and looking at his picture I’ve pulled him away from being busy indeed – lols of course breathing is easy now it was only at the end and his silly blood pressure and his wonderful big heart was too full of love it couldn’t cope and he says laughing, his big appetite.Well well well here you are, this will make her Christmas you know he says to me, one of the best presents I’d say.How are you all, we all know I’m fine – no more ageing, indigestion, work ,heat (he’s a real character) I loved my family and still do he says – I get frustrated when they get impatient and you know life is meant to be hard or challenging as well as good otherwise how do you know not to do something again! He is drawing my attention to a blond 20 year old maybe a granddaughter, he says if she wants to do nursing she needs to but make sure she has a specialty maybe “hearts”. There are so many people to mention but for right now “Merry Christmas” keep talking to me I’m always listening Love Dad x
Hello my angel, how could you think I haven’t been there – all the tears, all the pain, all the happiness I’ve seen it all, felt it all, my heart also broke you know – but we have all done our best, you there, me here. You have made a lot of good choices and lots I wouldn’t have been brave enough to try. I have never been lonely here but I do look forward to having a great catch up when we are reunited. 11.11 reminds you I’m always just over your shoulder and the smallest birds in the garden, I was never bold and brassy so my messages are subtle, keep enjoying and living till we meet again beautiful and “oh, what a beautiful family you have”. Deepest affection your Mum Merry Christmas to you all xxxx
Well, Well, my daughter did this didn’t she, couldn’t let me rest – she feels full of life, really full of energy. I feel like she passed with cancer or is with someone close who passed with cancer. “it was a big deal” but you did great you really did, she says “well done” you didn’t fall apart after all 🙂
Now 2017,18 and 19 let me tell you, you have your work cut out for you but it’s nothing compared to what you’ve done already, you’re ready for it and you’ll be “fine.”
Yes of course I miss you all more than you can imagine but yes life does go on doesn’t it, and you have a long time to go before you get to join me, so best make it count.
She’s making me really tired (you’re tired) you are needing to slow down, put your feet up, don’t sweat the small stuff, focus on what you “do” – love and enjoy and watch everything change. No more tears I’m all good and watching you all and yes you do know when I am around, you are right.
Happy Christmas it will be better than you are expecting I promise. Light a candle for me and set a place, I’ll be there! Love Mum xxxxx
Well don’t be so surprised – this Mumbo Jumbo works, yes you’re right. Your Dad is a good man with a good heart (even if it did let him down in the end), he never suffered fools gladly. He says “I’m sorry I had to leave so fast there was so much I was supposed to do. I feel he was a busy man, really busy, always busy. He was also a joker so when your lights just go out or flicker – yip its him. Your Mum is and was a good woman so look after her please – life’s not all that bad is it? You‘re doing OK from where I sit, you are just way too hard on yourself aren’t you? Life is supposed to be spent living, doing, so get on with it OK.
Did you have to choose a photo showing my teeth and he laughs and laughs, nothing changes hey! Stop waiting start moving. I’m always with you, love all of you, I miss me family but you’re all doing OK, start smiling.
Well if this picture doesn’t say how mad I was – Oh and strong BTW!
What’s going on? He asks in a cool dude kinda way! He liked the ladies, and says yeah Ok I was a bit vain.
Way to young BUT only the good die young right. I feel like there was an accident connected with him and a bit of a shock, he says least you all remember me tho!
He was amazed and shell shocked at the number of people at his funeral – wow! Thank you to everyone.
He says “ I should’ve made an honest woman of you” to his partner and he laughs “she’ll kill me for that. He says youneed to STOP worrying, it won’t change a thing – life goes on in spite of worry and drama so give it up and live, really live. I feel like he has a niece who’s at high school maybe or a young girl, anyway she misses him so much – please tell her the feathers are from me he says (and her Grandma)
Right time to go I’m new to this – thanks Alice he says (he’s a good bloke) Love yas xx
Hello my love and my family. Well aren’t you all doing well. He feels peaceful yet heavy hearted, like he still wishes he could be living in this picture – this was good time/era for him. He was such a family man and misses them all so, so much. Proud, well proud isn’t a big enough word for what he feels. Love laughter, determination, togetherness, those were all the qualities he loved about life but he’s peaceful now and there’s less noise.
I feel he’s referring to a large family, then he laughs. He wants you to know a certain situation you are in right now is OK so please stop worrying and go with the flow as much as you can please. I feel the more I look at him the more I see that you look like him, his side of the family, he likes that. He says to give everyone, he means everyone, a great big hug from him and look after yourselves in this heat. Travel he adds in – keep travelling, he loves travelling with you!
Thank you for everything and he hasn’t missed a thing, he promises, he’s always there, wherever you are, think of him.
She purposely made me look at her date of death, she wanted me to see she was young, but also it was “my own 50th Birthday”. She tells me she never go that far. Everyone tells you life is a gift, you think you’ll live forever then “bang” my head hurt when she said that!
I wouldn’t cross her, she was fiercely protective of what was hers and if you upset her it you’d know but big hearted OMG! She’s upset now, she missed and misses her Mum and her sisters, and she wants you to know, no more it’s all over now, you’ll all be ok. This is the second Christmas without her remember that so celebrate because if you are all happy then she’s happy ok! She says to tell you “thank you” and she loves you all – warts n all
He says phew you found me, no one really called me Anthony- well unless I was bad ha ha ha.he has a huge laugh, quite explosive that he keeps for family ha ha ha. Yes of course he still laughs in spirit why wouldn’t he? You know I was a brother before I was an Uncle. I want to say you have the same smile but somethings stopping me. I feel maybe your smile has gone a little since he died. Well he says “bring it back”. He says I’m smiling all the time everyday why not? You are letting things get on top of you when you don’t need to, he shows you 11.11 so you know I’m there, hell I even slam doors!! Yes I’m still being annoying because I love you, I love you all – you were there for me and I want to remind you how grateful I am and that I am here for you whenever you need it. Please be happy do not spend the next 40 years being sad or unhappy that’s not what you signed up for so go go go.
About time he jokes with me – he been trying to get my attention since last year . Well, well, well who would’ve thoughti’d be famous, I’m with a lot of good people and I can relax whenever I feel like it – he shows me his hardworking hands and laughs – it’s been a while since he’s had to do some hard work “thank god” he laughs. Now my girl where have you gone? You’ve gone a bit off track, what about what you wanted, your dreams, where have they gone, time to do some soul searching my girl thats where the answers are and boy do you have some good answers locked away in there, so come on you’re ok you can get through this – how could you not when I’m always right by your side – (remember to feed the birds too!) Love Dad 🙂
What a tall guy this is – he says its been a huge adventure and he actually thinks you go the “bum deal” and he laughs – seriously only the good die young – he was smiley and cheeky and full of the life he had. He asks you to celebrate his little life and he was so glad to know you so briefly. He laughs you have said goodbye to him nearly everyday e knows you mean it but now its tie for you to keep living for both of you. Take some time out, make some changes, shake life up a bit – you will be so so glad you can and you did he promises and he tells me there is overseas travel coming up for you. Enjoy he knows he will – love you X
Hi Em,well I think you all did exactly what I told you not to do (she laughs), seriously you are OK.I’m fine, settled in well with the locals accepting what is – of course it sucks being this removed from you all but you know what – “it’s a lie”. I am so much closer than you all think – you think of me and “poof”, like a genie I’m there,in your thoughts, in your mind – helping, guiding, supporting you. I’ve got Grandma telling me what to do so I’m being kept on my toes! I miss you and grieve for you too but I’m OK – I promise I’m OK – so please be OK too! You have so much still to do with your life and i will still be there every step of the way. Give my love and hugs to the boys and (she pauses and breathes deeply) Mum. All my love C.
Feedback: Hi Alice, thank you thank you! So wonderful to get Charlotte’s message, glad she’s with Grandma, she died after Charlotte, only last year, they always got on well! The last words, sending hug to mum was so Charlotte, in the hospice, she was not conscious for several days, but on last day she spoke her final ever words were “hello mum” when she heard mum, with all the people in ones life, you never quite bond like you do with your mum!! Again thank you so much, it’s been a tough three years! One other thing, I was on train when I read message, when I got up after reading it there was a 10 cent coin on top of my laptop bag, not sure how it got there, but it’s going to be my lucky coin from Charlotte xxx
My Dads passing is still raw and painful but i couldn’t pass the opportunity to submit this photo it was the last one we had together. He passed two weeks later. Miss you every day dad x.
“Well well well, what a turn up for the books this is – it’s like winning the lotto” (and he laughs). He sounds like he has a very chesty cough and I know he has a very good sense of humour – liked to laugh – when you were younger you had to behave (and he laughs again).
He says “just like the garden blooms every year, life has to go on” – he knows how much you miss him but it’s OK to live as well, it’s what he wants – he wants to watch you get on with your life, he wants to see you laughing. He says someone is on anti-depressants, it’s OK for a short time but not long term – long term they need to talk about things so they can move on. He blows you a kiss and says “now go outside and have fun” Love Dad, he says “OK yes give her a cross for a X from me
Hello Lovely, isn’t this a nice surprise, I told you I would let you know I was ok. I’m sorry I was scared but trust me it was quick and I am doing great apparently. I have lots of people round me keeping me busy and letting me chat their ears off. I am watching over you, you know that, but you are doing really fine without me and that makes me happy so keep doing what you are doing. I am glad you are happy in love again it’s about time ha ha ha! Just remember to slow down you still go too fast some days and I can still hardly keep up with you. I love my flowers thank you, just make sure when you remember my birthday you buy flowers for you from me. Talk again soon.
Hey Kez – that’s the best picture you could find, me acting like a big kid, with 4 of my favourite kids – oh yeah wait I am a big kid, great call! So how’ve you been – he laughs – still growing- (he laughs like he is poking fun at your height)
Its too clean here he says, I miss getting greasy and dirty, not enough tinkering to do – Seriously how’s the old man? I watch him so I know the situation is up and down but much better than he was I know.
Geez the kids are growing fast – see I don’t miss a trick – I just miss them so much, I miss you all so much. It looks like so much has changed – just don’t let it change you two please, you guys together are what matters – so no more heated discussions or I’ll have to come and sit on your bed and freak you both out.
You know, I know you lost me but I lost ALL of you too – it does suck – but look coz you know my Secretary “The Happy Medium” (she’s laughing at me) I get to say hello again and remind you ALL that however tough it is you are not alone.
Inspite of the setbacks, well done you gusy, gutsy move, but not before time. If you think this year has been busy look out! So Merry Christmas – keep Santa alive and tell them I said “Hi from heaven” don’t forget to toast me, I’ll be watching – (he is making me feel like he liked Coke and JD or something similar – not the taste I want at 7 a.m.)
Merry Christmas XXX
PS (hey secretary) Tell my Sis to stop worrying so much, she’s a worrier, there’s nothing to worry about now it’s all good.
Why wouldn’t I be OK you told me I would and I am, you talk to me every day and I still sit and listen, only sometimes you choose not to hear me because you miss me so much. So remember, as much as you all miss me I miss you all exactly the same, I am grieving here as you are there, but I like it here it’s never too hot just always nice and warm. I am in good company. You worry too much, remember you are still alive and its good for you to be that way it’s what I want for you. She wants to say something about the flowers at her funeral, they were very pretty just right not too showy just right. A lot has happened in 9 years just think what you will have to share with me when you’re an old lady, if you are going to come talk to me chose your Medium wisely you know of a few but few can do me justice, you know what I mean. I love you all and remember I hear you every day xxxx
