Oh my Angel, it’s such early, early days. Christmas will always be my favourite time of year always, always and you’ll need to keep it alive for me. I had to go, my body was struggling, it wasn’t fair to anyone to keep pushing so hard. I’m resting, I need to but I’m slowly finding my feet and you will too.
Grief is hard, you need each other. You also don’t have to rush to do anything, there is plenty of time for everything to be sorted. The most important thing right now is to keep breathing.
She keeps talking about a snowman, almost like it will be her obvious sign for you to remember her. Please also remember 11.11 is the easiest way for your Mum to let you know she’s around especially in these early days. She crossed over quickly in the end and easily but is still a bit shocked she’s gone. Her heart aches as yours does but please look for a snowman every year and everywhere.
Tell my entire family and friends, thank you for all you’re doing.
I feel like she’s waving at us all on the picture. I love it and so does she!
You loved me and I loved you. Now you get to hold onto my love and memories and make new ones. I’m happy it was my time, no matter what you say, it really was. You were with me every step until your Dad and my Dad took my hands. That’s when I was smiling, I knew I had nothing to fear and off I went.
Your Dad thanks you for everything you did and and you can stop being hard on yourself now. It’s time to move forward and celebrate and enjoy the rest of your long life before you see us again and tell us all about it. I love you so much and you will always know we are around and we love that.
I could hear her name being called from a crowd behind me, like she was being distracted doing a hundred things at once as usual and being the life and soul of the party. She then went on to berate me for my pen running out. She is quite bossy but laughing at the same time.
You are all still sad she is gone but of course she’s not forgotten. This is the perfect place for her, she says. She loves this photo.
“75!, who can believe I was 75? It still feels so young. I feel a bit confused as to what really happened in the end but anyway I’m here and actually loving it. I miss all my family of course and just simple things. That’s the key, it’s the simple things that matter. If I can give you all one piece of advice it would be, please keep it simple. We are animals, food and shelter is really all we need. Of course this technology is amazing but yeah, keep this Christmas simple, easy and fun, with wine of course and maybe coffee”.
She asks you to give her girls a hug and make sure the Christmas tree is up and shining. “I’ll be there in spirit”.
Whoever is selling a house or moving, she gives a big thumbs up!
“Oh wow! You saw me. Yay! That was quick, thank you. I love this picture, thank you. I didn’t suffer, honestly, I didn’t. I guess losing you all makes me suffer more but I’m not suffering”, she laughs. “See, even dead I’m indesicive”. Spelling was not her forte.
“Every time you look at my picture please just imagine me smiling at you. I know it’s hard but I am smiling, I promise”.
“Although it has only been a very short space of time so much has changed for you all already. I have been watching and doing my best to support you as much as I can, which is heaps, honest. And FYI, I cry when you cry and laugh when you do”.
She shows me someone will be travelling. She is very excited about that, very excited. They will have a ball.
“I’m sorry I let you all down and left but it’s only my body that’s gone. My soul is around you all, all the time. Look for the rainbows everywhere, that’s where I am. I love coming into all your dreams. I get to hug you all just one more time.
Please have a great Christmas and have a drink for me (Cocktail)
She loves this picture. She looks so good. She felt great.
There’s been a lot of coming and going this year and lots to sort out. Lots of tears and lots of change. Luckily there have been many laughs too and she’s glad about that.
Now she knows she hasn’t been the easiest of people and she did like things her way. It wasn’t always best but thank you to you all, for all the effort you went to and all the trying. It means a lot to her.
This will be the first Christmas without her but of course her legacy lives on so she will still be there, she knows that.
You are so like her, she loves it. You even have some mannerisms like her too.
Enjoy all she left behind and keep it safe. Teach your children what she taught you and you won’t go wrong.
Thanks for all you did, she said. And thanks for looking after your Dad. You’ll know what she means.
Keep singing and dancing, she loves it.
All my love. Merry Christmas to you all and thank you. XX
“Here I am, raring to go, You’re all busy, I won’t keep you long”.
She doesn’t and never did want to be any trouble. She was such a kind, helpful, caring person who was so generous with her time and everything.
She’s smiling through her tears and yours. It’s not been an easy ride and all first’s are hard, she knows that. “Step by step, it’s all you can do and avoid confrontations”, she laughs. As she looks at this picture she laughs and says to say “look, I match the gravel”, but in all seriousness, “it’s a great photo, thank you”.
I feel like she and you have a million questions for each other. Just trust your gut. She will always help you and will always be there. She will give you as many signs as she can she promises but right now just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
“I love you, all of my love. Thank you for being my family”.
“What a great photo. I still look like Madonna in the 80’s”, she laughs.
“Someone famous, come on, give me that!” She has a great sense of humour, full of fun and adventure and although she is sadly no longer living, she tells me this is the best adventure yet. So she asks that instead of missing her so much, can you remember she’s just having an adventure and by the time you all join her she’ll be a tour guide and she’s laughing.
“To think of everyone she’s left behind is just too sad (for all of us)“ she says. She wants everyone to keep remembering the good times. She had lots of those and there are still so many to come. There’s no way she will be missing any more weddings, she’ll be up front and centre at them all.
You’ve apparently changed jobs and she’s happy for you. “It’s a good idea. You could still do more travel, please !”.
“I definitely did not suffer. I don’t want anyone thinking that I suffered or that I was alone. I wasn’t and I know it. Thank you for always being there for me, it means everything to me. This is not goodbye, it’s just see you later.
She’s shouting, asking me if I’m receiving her! It’s hilarious, Dawn has a good sense of humour but she still liked things how she liked them and this is new to her, me typing on what she says looks like a TV screen (its an ipad). Anyway, thanks for putting me on this place, she says. It’s good, you can hear what I’m thinking instead of just wondering.
She’s naturally nosey or rather she likes to think inquisitive and she laughs again. But back to you, thank you for putting me up here, you’ve had a funny old 2 years haven’t you, but I’m so glad it’s settling down for you now. It’s time you had things to look forward to, you’ve been struggling for so long.
Please do what YOU want this year never mind anyone else, this is about you now, it’s your time and life is so short don’t waste any of it, you’ll be old and have more grey hair (again lols) before you know it so time to start moving forward and having fun, less work more play.
You will move house in the next couple of years and it will such a blessing and you’ll still take some of my stuff with you, oh you are a dear! I miss my sherry ! Toast me as always and enjoy a glass or two for me. Love always xxx (she was really disappointed to have to go)
“I know I was ready to go physically but my heart wasn’t ready to say goodbye. I’m not sure it ever is. I enjoyed most of my life, it’s just hard when the body gives way. You all loved me I know. I loved you all.
This really is a lovely photograph. Thank you. It’s so hard to watch and not be heard. You all hear me, I know you do. Whenever you think was that Mum, you’re right, it was. I love 11:11, I love music, I love your tv dramas. I couldn’t see too well at the end but I heard everything. The smell of flowers was beautiful. The garden, oh I miss the garden. Spend as much time as you can out there and you’ll feel me around”.
I can smell her perfume, it’s lovely. Whenever you smell it she’s giving you a big hug. She’s showing me a big cushion. Maybe you’re hugging it when you miss her. She knows and hugs you back.
She’s meeting up with so many people. She says it’s fascinating.
Please enjoy this Christmas, no masks, lots of hugs and plenty of laughs.
He has a big personality and a huge heart. He made me check out date of birth so I could see how young he was. He’s not impressed with my handwriting, I think he was a stickler for details. He says it’s always in the detail and he laughs.
He loves being in the car with you, even when you drive too fast or stall the engine Lols (he doesn’t get lols but he knows you will). He wants you to know he’s sorry that he’s missed so much but on the flip side he’s been everywhere with you too.
2022 will be a great year for you but you have to put your best foot forward.
Thanks for everything you do for your Mum. I miss her too but she’s living again and that’s all I can wish for her now. Take care and keep up the work, I’m always listening and helping in my own way XX
Well hello, I’m not very good at knowing what to say he chuckles. Do you see how like me you are now? More than you want to probably. Oh, you looked after your old Dad didn’t you? Your Mum’s awfully upset but well I’ve annoyed her for years so I’ll be in her head forever, he laughs.
He’s amazed at seeing your Gran again, it’s been a very, very long time and it meant a lot to him to see her again. He’s glad it was quick after all, then he didn’t have to look at sad faces for months on end. He says he had a good life, it couldn’t have been any better, he’s content. He wants you to always know he’s around, he’ll always look out for you like he’s always tried to do. You’re young, make sure you do everything on your bucket list.
He was amazed at the turn out, he says everyone was walking, he felt like Royalty. Life’s as good as you make it and it’s too short for anger. He sounds very wheezy in his chest. I feel like his heart, his big kid heart just gave up on him right before his eyes.
Look after each other and “nae mare fighting” ha ha ha.
Hello, hello, she says. It’s been a long time. She loves that you put her on here. She feels very up with the trend. She never liked to think she was old fashioned. She liked to think she moved with the times. How the times have changed. Wow!
She has so many family members and pets with her but she still checks in on you all. She still loves Christmas and all birthdays and anniversaries and she loves that she is still remembered so often by so many.
She’s a Great Nanna now and loves that. Even her name lives on and that makes her happy too!
She’s talking about a yellow room that she sits in often? She is still a shoulder to cry on, always and promises she’s always listening.
Give her love to everyone and keep smiling and moving forward. You can’t go back so make tomorrow count.
Hello my dear, aren’t you kind, fancy putting me here, I’ll be in the spotlight and she laughs.
So much has changed in such a short space of time but it’s good changes and all necessary. She is making me feel you are quite out of balance at the moment. She wants to remind you, life is for living. There’s no point in worry, it just gets in the way.
She also wants to let you know that she loves how much you all talk about her. Even she laughs when you laugh.
Someone hasn’t perfected the cake or bread yet but they are close so keep going.
Very Merry Christmas to you all and I hope to talk to you again.
I’m with my Mum and Dad, she smiles and breathes a sigh of relief.
Bet you never thought I’d make it did you?!! How the hell are you? God, what I wouldn’t give for a glass of wine and a catch up. Well, you can have a drink for me as you read this, yeah even at 9am, lols.
I miss my life, my loves, fresh air BUT it’s pretty cool here. You’ve got lots to look forward to. I’m not suggesting you dare join me yet. Nah, you need to be old and wrinkly before I want to see you again.
Thanks for posting me up here, I love it.
Have a much better Christmas this year please. Also, before I forget – she says -I love what you’ve done to your hair, Lols. Love you X
Yes, yes, here I am, modern technology, I like this.
You can keep the flowers for you now. You’re a good girl, you drove me mad, lots of laughs but we had fun. I did the best I could for you all. I hope it was enough, I think it was.
I’m a bit baffled by the to’ing and fro’ing but I know you’ll work it out, just take one day at a time, you’ll get through this. Now tell me, when is the wedding? He’s showing me what looks like a vineyard that he loves or maybe he loves where you live.
He’s such a light hearted, happy man, he was confused at the end but not anymore, it’s all sorted out now. Christmas is a very happy time for him and he loves the family getting together. He’s just blown you a big kiss with his hand and a wave to the baby/toddler who watches him. Keep cool this summer, please get the air conditioning serviced, it needs it. Love XXX
She would not leave me alone. Every time I was looking at the list she was saying, ‘please, please Sarah needs to hear from me right now. So! Here she is!
Sarah, you are not listening to your heart love, you are stuck in your head and too emotional. Trust that instinct, it’s never let you down.
I’m always with you, you can feel me and I do send you signs, it’s not your imagination. I’m still with you all night and day, whenever you need me – believe it and you’ll see, stop trying to see first – tell everyone that.
You look so like me, don’t think for one minute I haven’t noticed that. You’re amazing, I’m so proud of you, in spite of everything, you just keep going and going.
Exercise is really good for you, did you know that?, she laughs.
She mentions you are taking care of Dad and I think she means hers and yours and she smiles.
Don’t think she sits around all day because she doesn’t, you all keep her busy and she loves it. She loves the Grandkids and there’s a little girl who sees her, it’s lovely! There’s been weddings, funerals, birthdays, bar mitzvahs (she laughs), so many celebrations. What makes you think I’ve missed them? You included me in them all, I’m so grateful.
Yes I was too young but bright side, I get to look like that for eternity,
Lots of love Mum X
P.S. Never ever doubt that I’m with you, Happy Christmas (she made me look at the date, another Christmas to celebrate please)
He’s laughing at my broken pen but agrees it writes well.
Well what to say, it’s been a long time hasn’t it? You haven’t changed a bit have you? “Still grumpy ha, ha, ha”. I like this photo of myself, thank you. You know, you’ve never ever disappointed me, I’m so proud of how you always get yourself through, no matter what the situation. You are just like me. I’m sorry I had to leave so soon, I really am.
There’s a grandson that is very like him and he loves that. He’s glad life kept going but he feels all the love in your hearts for him. It’s been an interesting year but you’ve adapted and the rest of the 20’s will be good! I’m always on your shoulder, looking out for you.
Thank you for making me proud, I’ve so much to be grateful for and I am.
Hello she says, so super excited at having won this for you. She loves that you chose this picture, she says how healthy she looks here. Your Mum was full of life and loved giving. She had a smile for everyone even when things were rough. At the end she still did her best to smile. She asks that you stop being sad please, you’ll get wrinkles!
Well how am I? Settling in I suppose, getting on with things, talking to my Dad and your Dad of course lols I’m missing so much, yet seeing everything. You are doing fine, stop being so hard on yourself please or I’ll haunt you!!!
I miss my life but not the ailments or life headaches. Now as for babies I get to meet them all before you do so no need to wish because I meet them before you do. There are a few babies she promises to let go of and send them to you all. Oh, you just couldn’t have picked a better picture, thank you so much, sums me up to a T and it was a great night there.
Now get on with your career too, no stopping and putting excuses in the way, just get it moving, yes I’m watching everything! Love to you all and I’ll chat again…… P.S. Yes to the butterflies and rainbow you saw and the little bird that chirps so loudly. She also has a cat with her that belongs to someone close. Keep smiling it’ll keep you going. XXX
Who’s that photo bombing my picture? God I can’t even get on here on my own, then she laughs because she liked being busy and having lots to do.
She’s had a kind heart but her heart let her down a bit, she could’ve tried harder, well we all can but we all have to go sometime. She feels incredibly optimistic and is asking you to be also. It’s not a time to imagine the worst, only a time to look forward.
There are lots of new people around since she passed, in your life that is and it makes her very, very happy. She says someone has moved and she’s really happy for them, really happy. 2020 and 2021 will be monumental, all in a good way, lots of clearing and moving forward – about time!
Hello love. What a great day this is. I guess we all have to go sometime. You’re never ready really. You know what matters is how you live, not what you do or how much you have but how much you live, kindness, love, smiles, acceptance, asking for help, vulnerability. Being able to be vulnerable is such a strength and you have such strength. Everyday I watch you get back up and start again.
I love you very much and am very proud of you. I love watching the young ones running around. I had a happy life, honest I did and my family (most of them) looked after me well. She’s showing me some kind of fruit cake or Christmas cake, she says keep trying and laughs.
He made me look at his dates, how amazing, born 22/11, died 23/11, 79 years later. He says he never acted his age, age has too much importance put on it. It’s way better to just live, no matter what number is there. Are you living fully, right now he asks?
I feel he may of had a quick passing and everyone was just so sad because he’s just such a nice man. I think he was happy it was quick though. Life keeps going on, he wants to make this message count, he wants to make sure you are happy? He doesn’t think you like you’re job maybe and if so he really wants you to speak up before someone else does.
He’s grateful to all his family and his wife – he sighs and there are tears in his eyes. She’s still so beautiful and he’s always with her, always will be, no matter what. Thank you for thinking of him and putting him here, he’s grateful, he likes it a lot. It’s a great place to be, so much positivity and love, not like a graveyard at all. XX
Wow, it’s almost 10 years. You are so like me in more ways than you know (that’s a compliment). I’m a Grandma now, who knew? Keep yourself healthy, you know what to eat and what to do, no cutting corners. You will get through this, it’s just a drop in the ocean of life.
She makes me feel a lady has now joined her, maybe her Mum, she’s crying but happy. She loves that life has just kept going, just like she wanted, so thank you for that, all of you. Have a quiet Christmas, you don’t need to rush around remember. Enjoy every moment and you’ll lead a good life.
P.S. if you want to change your job, just do it. Love you so much Mum X
There’s my beautiful girl, well young woman now, Wow. You’ve come a long way and I’ve enjoyed every step of the way. She’s making me feel like you’ve graduated since she passed or achieved similar because she is so, so proud and has tears in her eyes that she missed it – well, missed it in the flesh; spirit wise she was there of course.
She’s making me feel like a baby is coming? And again she’s so proud. I think you may have a brother because there is a boy she misses too. In fact she misses all of you constantly but loves being able to watch from afar so to speak.
You know she’s always with you and always answers your questions – her voice will always be in your head, always! So go, keep being amazing and enjoy this Christmas coz next year it will be very different.
Look at those photographs, I love the hat but not my arms and I love how relaxed I am in the other one.
Well, where to start …. What an adventure!
Firstly I was too young, way too young to die, even saying die – yuk, she turns up her nose but I guess it happens to us all and then, well it’s another adventure entirely. I want to thank so many people for looking after me, I was so lucky and I’m so grateful – thank you.
To my daughter, oh how I miss us, you and me, catching up, putting the world to rights, saving our little corner of the world and I know you miss me. I hope this little Christmas message gives you just the lift you need. You are such an amazing girl – always were, always will be. I was so lucky to have you as my daughter. Thank you.
I feel like she’s left a son and husband behind too and wishes she could hug you all just one more time. She’s happy you are all doing what you are supposed to and she’s happy life goes on, because it has to. I’ll see you in your dreams; love to you all, Merry Christmas.
As for my lovely niece, thank you for putting me here too, I feel very spoilt. You were like another daughter to me and I loved watching you grow. Look after Mum and Dad won’t you? Make sure Mum doesn’t go crazy this Christmas, she needs to relax more!
I have a feeling someone is getting engaged or has just got engaged recently – she’s grinning with pride (hope this is not a spoiler alert). Merry Christmas XX
Well it’s been 5 years, what a 5 years it’s been. You certainly are part of history now.
I loved my life. I loved being alive. It’s taken you a bit of time but you feel alive again and I’m so glad. My passing was just my soul longing to be free and now I can be every where I like. Please pop the champagne this year for me, celebrate life, life is for living, keep living and keep planning. Moving is not really necessary but making the best of what you now have is huge. You have so much and I’m so proud of you.
Thank you for everything you do for everyone, including me. Keep looking after your joints. Remember also it’s the little things that matter, that make the biggest impact. I look forward to walking on the beach with you again.
Oh how she will be excited – there she was busying about in her usual fashion and up pops a hello from Mum. There’s a slight English twang to her voice. Nice hat she laughs, like the hats were a family joke.
She says her heart breaks for you lovely, you’ve been missing her for so long and the silly thing is she’s been talking to you every day since she left.
The name Gary just popped up or a name similar to this. I think she’s with him and it was so nice to see him again.
She says please keep looking forward, there’s no point in looking back, that won’t get you anywhere. Onwards and upwards, chin up, 2020 will be so clear for you, you know what you have to do so please just get on with it. She’s very happy at the decisions you’ve made, very happy. There’s a grandson who’s all grown up now, say Hi from her won’t you.
She says, ‘I was watching Alice write the last message for another daughter who has lost her Mum, same age as me and I felt like I could agree with everything she said. Missing the hugs, the chats, the love, the tea. I was content, it took me a while but I got there, I was content. Life throws you curve balls and the best plan of action is to catch them and send them in the direction you want them to go. You’re in charge of your own destiny. Remember no-one is making you do anything but you. If you could hear me right now you’d hear me say, ‘stop it, do what you want to do, not what you feel you should do’.
I’m proud of you for being as determined as you are. She’s with her Mum which makes her laugh, I think things were tricky with them but she says, ‘all’s good now’. Someone needs to go to the dentist, don’t put it off, get it sorted.
Remember I’m watching everything you do at Christmas, on birthdays, weddings etc. I’m not missing a thing and you are 100% correct when you say, “Mum wouldn’t agree to that” or “Mum wouldn’t do it like that” and you make me smile every time. Please be happy my love, life is so short/quick, be happy and do what you want to, not what you feel you should. She loves her grandchildren, there’s a really special little girl and she thanks you for her. Keep reading, keep writing and keep laughing. If friendship and relationships don’t make you laugh then move on!
Hello Everyone, she sounds a little breathless like she always has a lot so say but usually giggles all the way through it. She feels like she was always busy and looking for something to do. She is so grateful to be able to say hello and bring a bit of sunshine into your day. Time goes so fast she says, it’s important to enjoy all the little things, including littlies, because before you know it they are off out, away on their own. Life’s OK with you she says, of course there is always “stuff’ to do but she asks you to remind yourself that you’re doing OK and to remind you, Rome wasn’t built in a day. She says ‘didn’t she have a nice send-off’- made her cry! She’s very grateful to her sister for taking control, thank you. She misses life so much and encourages you to see as much of it as you can. She’s with an Aunt of hers and is having such a laugh and good times, it keeps her mind off how much she misses her life and everyone. Love to you all xx
Well I’m so glad you used this picture, no wrinkles to be seen, those were the days. I look like a movie star.
You know (she feels like she could tell wonderful stories and you’d never get bored) I had an interesting life, a long one but definitely interesting, by my standards anyway. I could’ve travelled more I suppose but anyway I’m happy. I never saw my end of life as suffering, I saw it as shutting down, it’s inevitable and happens to us all.
Thank you for doing your best, you know that’s what counts, always doing your best – I mean, why not!
I loved seeing my Mum again and so many others. I know you’re maybe not a huge believer but you know I’m around. It makes me smile when I know, you know, I’m there.
You are always in my heart no matter what. Please keep positive and enjoy your life, it’s worth enjoying I promise.
Hello my love, yes here I am, I thought I’d better otherwise you’d never give poor Alice a break – Lols. No you’re good really, I came through because I miss you, I miss our chats, your hands, our tea, nagging you…. I just miss my life. It wasn’t an easy life but it was a life and one I’m glad I got to share with you for the little bit of time I did share it.
Thanks for trying to keep going, I know it’s easier but yeah, I miss you. You need to get more sleep, stop falling asleep in front of the TV – that’s not restful, it’s just tiring. Please have a good Christmas, you are allowed you know, to keep living and enjoy life. I know how much you love me. Nothing will ever change that but please be sociable, for me OK.
So Merry Christmas to you all. I’m so proud and grateful to be remembered in all the ways you all do.
Hello love, told you I’d be back! You’ll never be rid of me. Love this photo, I’m so glad it’s your favourite, it’s mine too. He’s coughing a lot like he should’ve stopped smoking or maybe he is with his Dad who smoked too much or both. He’s such a trickster.
He loves what you have done to your home, loves it. It’s perfect, you’re a star! He misses his beer and just socialising and chatting but he doesn’t miss the depression. That was hard. Sometimes it wasn’t bad but it was enough to be annoying, then he laughs. He’s talking about building a wall? Don’t do it too high, keep it tidy he says.
There’s a daughter or niece he misses and wants her to know he’s always looking out for her and hasn’t missed her thing. He knows this will be a big surprise and he’s glad because you deserve a surprise. So here it is.
Thanks for everything you do. We all love you so much, he’s definitely not alone, he’s settled until you meet again. Lots of love Pete X
Oh my goodness, I like this picture, happy days. Do you know she says, she had a good life – yes she did, even with all the little ups and downs and moves – it was a good life. You have her smile and it makes her cry each time she sees you smile – which, by the way is not often enough!
She had a lovely handwriting, she’s making sure I write straight, there’s even a schoolteacher feel about her? She was a very private person and being here is a big deal for her – well, private outside her immediate family and friends. She says you are looking at the glass half empty at the moment and that’s a shame because when you are your normal positive self, there is nothing you can’t do. So please imagine she is standing right behind you because actually she ‘is’ and look at all your worries, the big ones – can you let them go and try something new? Or should you be making lemonade with all the lemons (she laughed and said yes, you can have a gin in that). She loves how much you loved her and how much love you have for everyone, just take this message as a big Mum hug and love ‘just for you’, the others are fine, you just need your old (ha, ha, ha) Mum.
Merry Christmas to you all, it’s so nice to watch the family growing so much. Love to you all Mum X
I thanked her, she is so lovely and bright and bubbly
I miss all the camaraderie, not the bickering but the laughs and good times. I know I was really lucky and I’m so grateful for all I did have. I don’t think about what I lost or was taken from me, I just focus on the good.
She’s showing me happy memories of children running around on a beach and she’s watching them. I feel sick as if she had cancer and she is with someone else who also had cancer. She does make me feel there are lots of people around with her. She would love to feel the sun on her face one more time but she’s OK. She’s been gone a long time, gosh but time flies in spirit. She says to tell you you’re just not doing what you are told, well one of you anyway isn’t. Someone is not very good at listening and if they were things would definitely improve.
I feel lots has changed since she’s passed and she wants everyone to know she’s OK with that, she’s happy that everyone is getting on with life and makes it much easier to watch when you do. There’s a house move coming up and a wedding – both are so positive, she’s excited for everyone. She finishes off by thanking you for always missing her and to remind you to take care of your health. Lots of love xxx
She wants me to notice she was like me, a Christmas baby, 24th Dec, she thinks she aged well and apart from a little upset in her 40’s, life was good to her. She enjoyed good health mainly, you really are what you eat, she sees that now, 100%. She really wouldn’t change a thing, she’s had lots of time to reflect and loves everything even the challenges.
She’s made peace with her Mum and is very contented and peaceful now. She wants it to be known how much she loves her family, all of them and how loved she felt by all of them. She couldn’t have had enough children, she would’ve always wanted more, more, more. She has a granddaughter who feels the same but it’s much harder nowadays to have a large family and not too acceptable, she smiles.
Ah Christmas, the best time of the year, keep all of those traditions going please, I love watching them. She says she died too young but at least she had her mind and so many wonderful memories.
Whoever is debating moving house needs to just get on with it. They will be so, so glad they did, the location is so much better and there is a new car next year for you too!
This little one she is holding is a beauty now and the others that have followed, well she’s seen them all. Thank you so much for always including me, I love it. You have a dog that knows when she’s around, keep talking I’m always listening – Merry Christmas to everyone, love Mum XX
Oh right, so you picked me eh! Well not much to say really, yous all know what happened. I’m doing what I’m told now. Yeah and thanks for sending over the bossy one, you couldn’t of kept her a bit longer could ya!
He laughs, stop worrying we’re all OK, we’re good, misbehaving, he laughs but yeah we’re good. Life’s getting easier for you now isn’t it, we’re glad, it should be easier, you’ve done enough, time to relax a bit.
We’ll be sitting there at Christmas tho’ so make sure there’s enough food, he laughs again. OK (clears his throat) – Mum is fine. Pixxxd she’s dead (he’s laughing at me writing exactly what he’s saying) but yeah I’ve got her now, we’ll be right. So off you go back to your travelling and singing. Lololos.
He was the kind of man that attention to detail really mattered to him, he just told me I hadn’t lit my candle and he wanted the whole experience! He was confident, courageous and to the point. He was opinionated but everyone who knew him loved him. It was that courage that people warmed to.
Life was so quick, he can hardly believe it’s over, at the time it seems to go on and on but when you’ve gone it was a flash, no wonder so many souls come back, it is the best rollercoaster ever! So you have to keep enjoying it, you will be with him when your time is right and not a minute before. Keep living and looking after your veggies – he’s laughing, I’m wondering if he is toying with me? Maybe he was the gardener? There is definitely an ‘in joke’ there.
He misses your smile, how you light up a room when you walk into it. He asks you to keep trying, keep going, he’ll still walk beside you always. If you want to have a trip go, go, go – stop talking yourself out of it, just go. Life is a rollercoaster, just got to ride it – he’s laughing because that song is now in my head.
He smells nice, he likes that you still have his cologne and he’s grinning at you. OK so he says he’ll love you and leave you, yes again, but loving you is the easy part. Don’t underestimate how much grieving he has done too but right beside you is where he still is. So when you have fun he still has fun, till death us do part is not true in our case, always and forever. XXX
This lovely man’s eyes grabbed my attention and the child on his lap – he’s so proud and she’s so comfy there, not bothered, chilled, easy going. He has made me look at what she’s holding, it looks like an ornament to placate her whilst she sits with him.
He didn’t say a lot but when he did – wow he was interesting, he was actually a very clever man who tried lots of things before he truly knew what he wanted – he says that really took a lifetime and he laughs. He loves seeing you laugh and smile but it doesn’t happen often enough. So can you show your dimples just a little more for him. You are considering making changes – he’s coughing now, it sounds like a smokers cough but not sure it is but he definitely had trouble with his lungs a lot of his life. He’s disappointed how spread out his family became – he liked it in the olden days when you could rely on family. He wants you to know financially you will be OK, he knows it’s tough but he promises me you have an ace up your sleeve that no-one, not even you saw/can see coming and you will be as wealthy and happy as you keep dreaming of, but in order to get that/there, it’s important to keep living and really living. You will all be taken care of and exceed all your dreams and aspirations – he has just flashed a lady in uniform with a lot of gold around it.
He watches you and when you are stuck for words he tries very hard to give you courage and strength to speak up, he knows this is hard but promises it will get better. You feel like he has missed so much but actually he has had front row seating and loves what you do. You haven’t chosen an easy life but you keep being positive and moving forward he says again – it will get better and better – stop rushing things and trust yourself. You are a lot like Dad’s side of the family, more than you realise and they are always successful and never give up!
He has a really nice smell, very fresh but I can smell smoke, he just used to disguise it. He loves the family tree and urges you to keep going – he is helping you. He feels happy yet frustrated at his own children, yet impressed with all his grandchildren, like they are doing and will do even better. He finishes by saying – stop listening to other people/family, they don’t know you nearly as well as you know you – he’s laughing but then you know that.
Now go have the best years of your life now, right now whilst it counts. Love to all my family of course and thank you for always thinking of me.
As soon as I sat down to look at who was up today on the Wall her picture was enlarged and in my face which hasn’t happened before, so Casey is really keen to say, “Hello”.
She feels much freer and happier and balanced and actually altogether healthier. Yes she knows she was young and she could’ve made different choices but she gets to try again and is happy with that. Now Aunty, she says, “Why are you so sad all the time, you used to be full of life and you’re now so filled with heaviness. How about you write a list of all the things you love doing! How many of them are you actually doing?! Not many. You need to have a rest and a really, really exciting holiday where you can just shut off the world for 2 weeks. Why not?”!!
Please just take a little time out to reset your batteries then you will achieve so much more. She’s sending you so much love and gratitude for being the best Aunty ever XX
There is no getting me out of the picture, death or not, I’m not leaving my family. I’m old fashioned and proud and right beside them is my place. I don’t miss anything now, not a trick he laughs and I can hear everything now. He feels to me he was a little hard of hearing later in life – just like his son is getting?
From the day you were born you won my heart, we had fun together and I’m grateful you got to know me. Now I know you’ve been a bit confused lately but it’s because you’re too busy listening to everyone else. You need to trust your gut please. I’m doing my best to guide you but you don’t often sit still long enough to hear me. When was the last time you picked up a book, my goodness, pick up one book, get lost in the pages, you know you’ll thank me for it and then if you can imagine I’m sitting beside you, smiling because I am often.
Have a healthy germ free Christmas and be careful who you kiss (wink, wink) XX
As I am connecting with your daughter she’s loving my painted nails, she loves all things beautiful, she was such a beautiful girl. She’s a tear jerker, she has just made me realise she’s the same age as my son. I can feel a real pull in my stomach, anxiety, pain, anger, sadness, the unknown. She had so much to live for, so much to give, so much taken away. She says ‘Mum’ I’m fine, ‘stop stressing.’ ‘ I don’t get frizzy hair, my make up is ALWAYS perfect, it’s not cold here. I still have chores to do, there are people looking after me, just like being at home, then her voice cracks………but you’re not here Mum, none of you are, I’m sorry I left, I love you all more than I will ever be able to tell you, I’m sorry, BUT YOU MUM you have to go on for ME. Live the life you wanted me to please, let me see everything I wanted to through your eyes. ( I feel like she misses a sister or friend who, she so wants to stop crying and moaning, then she laughs) Only the good go early Mum. I did all my Earth chores like a good girl and it was time to move on to my next adventure. Please don’t let this rip my family apart, you all mean too much to me, let this be the event that pulls you all together, oh and don’t make my room a shrine coz ‘ew’ that’s just too sad. When you are ready, maybe move and have a fresh start because I get to go wherever I want to now. I even get to come back if I like, maybe one day one of your grandchildren (not necessarily a girl either) will have my eyes you’ll see!
Hello beautiful, I miss you, thanks for trusting this one (Alice) she’s OK you know, knows her stuff. Well things do move on don’t they just when you thought your life was over too, it starts again. Do you know how much I loved and still do love you! Like it was yesterday, and it makes me really proud how you have all grown and kept going, well done.
Told you money would be ok.
Alice is noticing my kind eyes, like you always did – I was so lucky to have you for the time I did and we had fun and arguments but mostly fun thank you!
He makes me feel you had a boy and a girl and he can’t believe how they have grown – he watches over them all the time and his blond girl is a stunner, she’ll break some hearts. Tell them I’m watching over them so best be on best behaviour he jokes. Seriously tho, well done I couldn’t have done it without you thanks. Now go have a great rest of your life and I’ll see you on the other side and yes I do choose the songs on the radioand CD for you. Ha Ha Ha. All my love Daz (ps say hi to his brother)
Oh yes, pick me she says as I was scrolling through. Well there are so many of us here and so many of us there, it’s almost balanced now. This lady feels very proper but underneath a real hoot. She enjoyed life in her own way and made the most of every day, again in her own way.
The end of her life became confusing for her so she was glad it ended and she is with someone dear to her who passed with cancer – she gives me a huge smile. She has so much to be proud of yet so much she would still like to do. So she asks you all to stay busy but focused, it’s the small things we take for granted that actually matter in the end!
Love to you all and thank you for this kind honor. XX
There’s a lot of fussing going on with you girls right now. That never solved anything, time to take a step back like I used to and sometimes you just have to wait. These things always have a way of working themselves out you know. So how about being patient and letting life takes its course, please?
Sort out all the legal stuff sooner rather than later, but just one day at a time. Now me, I’m good – I don’t miss the nagging and fussing (he laughs) but I do miss the company. You all seem to be doing just fine without me though so I’m glad for that.
Your Mum is OK, when it’s time, it’s time, just know you gave it your all and be happy with that please. I am also loving all the new great grandchildren, what a treat for everyone. All 3 of my girls have your work cut out for you and I couldn’t be prouder than I am. I’d like to be alive and help with the land and building but I had my turn but I’ll do my best to nudge you in all the right directions.
Oh what a lovely picture to put out there to the world. Thank you. She has the feeling of being a school teacher maybe but attention to detail was really important to her as was having fun. She’s not worried how she died, we all have to go sometime and it was sadly, her time but it’s all OK, she’ll get over it, in fact she has and she laughs a really lovely, silly laugh.
You haven’t been laughing a lot of late, she says, remember I’m always listening – you can come and tell me anything, anything, I’ll always be listening and trying my hardest to point you in the right direction. I’m feeling sleepy – I think she’s letting me know that you’re burning the late night oil. She says to please get some rest. You have a great new year coming up and you’ll need lots of energy for that, so please start taking it easy between now and then.
Please tell everyone, YES everyone, I said hello and I’m really grateful for all you did to help and support me. I miss you all but know we will all be together again.
Lots of Love Gran X
P.S. She says she loves ‘The Crown’ and ‘Outlander’ so whoever watches that, she sits with them always when it’s on – lots of laughing going on.
Look at those photographs, I love the hat but not my arms and I love how relaxed I am in the other one.
Well, where to start …. What an adventure!
Firstly I was too young, way too young to die, even saying die – yuk, she turns up her nose but I guess it happens to us all and then, well it’s another adventure entirely. I want to thank so many people for looking after me, I was so lucky and I’m so grateful – thank you.
To my daughter, oh how I miss us, you and me, catching up, putting the world to rights, saving our little corner of the world and I know you miss me. I hope this little Christmas message gives you just the lift you need. You are such an amazing girl – always were, always will be. I was so lucky to have you as my daughter. Thank you.
I feel like she’s left a son and husband behind too and wishes she could hug you all just one more time. She’s happy you are all doing what you are supposed to and she’s happy life goes on, because it has to. I’ll see you in your dreams; love to you all, Merry Christmas.
As for my lovely niece, thank you for putting me here too, I feel very spoilt. You were like another daughter to me and I loved watching you grow. Look after Mum and Dad won’t you? Make sure Mum doesn’t go crazy this Christmas, she needs to relax more!
I have a feeling someone is getting engaged or has just got engaged recently – she’s grinning with pride (hope this is not a spoiler alert). Merry Christmas XX
Well would you look at that, I’m famous after all, and she laughs. Not one for the limelight yet she likes to be remembered, so thank you.”I always enjoyed a good view” she says “and now I have front row seats” I’m so lucky to have so much here and there, so grateful and you should be too. I know life’s hard right now but you’ll get through it you’ll see. It’s all the little things she misses, the hugs, the holding hands. She’s making me feel like there’s a breast cancer connection somewhere around and you are and were all strong. She had a soft caring voice unless you were in trouble – she laughs again. Look after those feet of yours and keep moving forward please. I love being on here and being remembered so much, thank you. All my love Nan X
I felt so, so indecisive when I tuned into him and so distracted, like it was so hard to focus on just one thing, like his instant message is to slow down, slow down. You’re missing life, all of it. He wants you to take a step back and truly smell the roses. That way you will get all the answers you’re searching for 100% but not whilst you’re going this fast, drop all the spinning plates, one at a time – slow and steady wins the race.
I feel this message is for all of you he left behind. He’s asking that you all savour every moment – he had a good life and he’s so grateful for everyone in it, yes everyone. He is pain-free now and sleeps way better, he chuckles. Thank you for putting him on here, he loves you and you really are his and he gives you the biggest smile. He had a really cheeky way about him and inside he always felt 21.
There is so much more to explore and I just heard the word Portugal so perhaps a long trip overseas is exactly what you’re heading for and soon. The building work going on will always go on, the bills will always come, even when you’re not there anymore so remember STOP, take five and enjoy yourself.
All my love Dad.
PS He made me stop and work out his age, 53, just to remind you how young he was.
He’s in such a hurry, always busy, never sits still. I’ll keep it brief, he says.
Thanks for being patient with me, thanks for all the love and good wishes and thanks for being you! Now keep living, stop waiting, life’s a big adventure and there’s so much to do for everyone – so get on with it, he says, or else.
He has a dog (or 2) with him so has company and is happy with things as they are. I feel like a home has shifted or changed since he passed and he just shrugs – ‘All good’, he says, ‘All good’. I can hardly write as fast as his thoughts – he was exhausted but he’d had a full life – lots of ups and downs but he knew he’d lived. Thank you all.
P.S. He loved being a Dad, husband and best friend. Thanks for it all, love you!
A very ‘matter of fact’ lady, she says “Right now, how long have I got?” You couldn’t have picked a younger photo when I was without my wrinkles? – well I guess you always knew me with my wrinkles, she always had nice handwriting and in a straight line, carefully – she was carefree and careful at the same time – something you are not the best at, she laughs. Now tell your Mum to stop fussing, everything is fine and was fine. I did good time, so I never made 100, well you and your Mum can have a go can’t you?
I’m always listening, what makes you think I would stop. Life is an adventure, I didn’t do enough, its time you did more, don’t let money hold you back please. Now go to the beach and I’ll walk with you, now that I can that is. I loved my life – simple, hard, fun but always honest – thank you to all my family but know I’m happy I’m with my Mum and Dad and Sisters and I love it, honest I do! So don’t worry for me now go have fun and look after my great great Lila and all my grandchildren,
Lots of love Nan XX– not sure that’s right but that’s what she wants me to write
I’m forever in your hearts and that’s the perfect place for me. I get to see everything you do and everything you feel. I’m still a huge part of the family, just in spirit not there with you. There was nothing more you had to do or could’ve done, you were my Mum, you did your best and so did I. Thank you for the experience I did get to have, I’m very grateful. Now to keep moving forwards so I can watch and learn with you – she says she has a dog for company and loves him(?). Happy Christmas xx
P.S. (Do you have her hand or footprints somewhere? She just flashed me an image). Thank you for putting me here I love it x
Hello my love, how are you? Sorry I had to leave you behind, you know I always put you first so this was hard for me and still is. I’m glad to see the garden doing so well, it looks good – I think you still work too hard though.
I love how much I’m in your thoughts yet you’re strong enough to keep going – well done Love. What a journey we had and you still do. When will that suitcase be packed? – soon I hope – I need a holiday too. Get away from the cold, you never did enjoy it.
The Grandkids will be fine, you’ll see. Why didn’t you post our wedding picture? At least I had hair then and was handsome -he laughs. He says to remind you whenever you feel sad, go outside with the trees and the birds, then you’ll feel close to him again.
I feel sick in my stomach like he had cancer or he’s with someone who did. (He’s definitely with his Mum and he’s laughing). Love you now and forever, always Me xx
Yes I‘m still here, still watching, well where else would I be! Now its going to be a hot summer so stay safe and cool. I can’t help that much, the weather is beyond my pay grade she laughs. She says you are all up and down – well the worst parts are now over, the first year is the hardest she promises, keep living and moving forward. Tell Dad to get painting, the house needs a spruce up and it will keep him busy – she’s laughing really loudly now.
Seriously Merry Christmas make sure all the decorations are up this year, coz I’ll be watching.
I feel quite sick in her energy and she says she definitely didn’t look her best at the end, but at least it ended and allowed you to go back to ‘normal’ life. Remember the promises you made huh! Please keep your end of the bargain up – she’s done her bit. She says “I’m doing OK, I’m sad when you’re sad, especially when you smell my perfume and clothes, makes you miss me all over again and it’s the same for me. I promise it will get easier you are surrounded by good people, please tell them all I am very grateful for everything that’s been done for my family. She misses you all so much BUT is keen to get you all moving – no moping around. She makes me feel like you’ve got your hair shorter again and it’s a nice colour. Do something that you love and please go to the ocean and smell the fresh sea air. You will feel much better and I’ll be right there with you. All my love Mum – gone but not forgotten I know, Love you. X
Oh my love, you always made everything better for me even when I was screaming at you, you always helped me but this time you felt so helpless, I know.
My love but you know you’re love was enough it’s all I ever wanted to be in your heart everyday and I know I was and am. Please move forward I don’t care how long it takes but move forward – I know I’ll always be the love of your life as you were and are of mine but you’re still breathing so please keep it that way and know I’m with you 100%.
Look after everyone for me and they’ll look after you – talk about me, remember me, shout at me, cry for me but “live” for both of us – no matter what you do make sure you travel far and wide and no more cigarettes! You know the rest love ya (your soppy) M x
She asks me to notice that she died on my Birthday 23/12 🙂 anyway she says to tell you she’s still smiling and still being polite, then she laughs. She loves that they picked this picture – thank you, that’s exactly how she wants to be remembered, so thank you. Now 2 things, stop the Christmas tears and make it a celebration, she walks beside you all, there is nowhere else she would rather be. She always used to put everyone before her unless it was important to her then she would say. You are doing the same.
She’s very excited to be remembered, very happy and very free and so happy her family are doing so well. I mean all families have one that doesn’t play by the rules but he still loves him just the same. The family have grown so, so much and now she really gets to see everything and take it all on board. I feel like she was confused at the end and she says “I just wasn’t myself – sorry!” But I am now and I’m helping and loving you all so, so much. Thank you for thinking of me and putting me here, it’s right up my street. I love it. Tell everyone you know this is a great service (I’m thanking her for the plug haha)
Please go overseas again and again – she loves going with everyone who travels she looks out for them of COURSE!! Why wouldn’t she. OK gotta go, much love to you all X
This is not ordinary – this is new but this is good. I am glad to be doing this. He tells me education was important to him and although it’s not everything it helped. You have done well and he is very proud of you. He was a very proud man, who took care of his family and home.
You allow other people to make you sad, he asks you to stop it – you must shine your own light, then let others take care of themselves. You can still love and be there but don’t give away so much. He says to stop worrying so much everyone is ok. Truly ok. You’ll see.
You are just like your mother, putting everybody before you. You don’t need to do that do you! Let others take care of you for a change. Now I’m fine, its been a long time since you could talk to your old Dad but I’m fine, life goes on.
I feel very calm at the end and can feel no pain at all, almost like I just stopped breathing almost even in my sleep, but definitely NO pain – he wants me to stress that to you ‘NO PAIN’. He says you feel like he missed out on so much but he says to tell you “I’ve got front row seats now and don’t miss anything at all.” Thank you for thinking about me every day well all the time. I love that you do and I’m glad I got to be your Dad. Now get on with living some more, if you’re not happy make changes but talk about it, it’s the best thing you can do and I should know. God how I should know. Be at peace and enjoy life, for once you’re gone it’s all too late. Love you always Dad, see you at Dreamtime X (he means in your dreams because they are real he’s there, well his energy is)
Well isn’t this a nice idea, I’m all modern, lovely.
She misses her beautiful garden – she comments mine doesn’t have a lot of colour where I’m looking right now!
She liked a lot of colour, she wants your Mum to know she looked great in her coffin so don’t worry on what she thought, she thought it was perfect– well done!
She says “I never meddled in anyone business but I liked to know what was going on” “I had a good life and was loved and cherished. I mean really what more do you need” She is glad all the messy stuff got sorted, I just wanted you all to remember me well and you did and do, thank you!
Now I’ve always been there for you so why would I let a little silly think like death stop that, I’m in the birds, the trees, the butterflies, spring growth and autumn sun – I’ll always be there. Love to all and remember if your loved and cherished you’ve done a good job. All my love Nan XXX
What a great picture to send in, thank you she says. Well it’s been a long time, you’re all grown up and moved on and life keeps going. Yet I am always in your thoughts thank you. You have done a great job without me. I know you would’ve liked it more if I was around but I’ve been watching, you’re doing OK. She says she has a granddaughter who is very like her and she loves that.
She makes me feel there is still lots of music in the house and she’s glad about that and someone (female) has a lovely voice she loves listening to.
There are a few hiccups right now but you’ll get through it you always do lovely. She wants to give Dad a kiss and asks you to give him a thought too. She makes me feel someone close is considering moving house and she approves. Well she has to go but she never leaves you, remember that, well done love you Mumxxx
It’s been a long time, she beams at me with her gorgeous smile –she loved the warmth of the sun when she could get it. She says she wasn’t a traditional Grandma, she was always too young for that and you are exactly the same. She says to remind you the dusting can wait, she sees that now and once you tidy it just needs doing all over again anyway. Spend time relaxing for a bit even 30 minutes every day would be good. You are a good girl and she’s so proud of you (even if you are a grown up now, she laughs). Remember to speak up and always say what you feel, never doubt your words. I feel that there is a wedding soon or has just been, well she’s loved it, every bit of it from start to finish. She sees you crying and wants you to dry your tears and know you’ll be OK. She promises and its not always what you want but it’s always what you need. Taking the good with the bad is all about the balance and your life is about to be balanced again. “Phew” she says and throws herself into her comfy chair. She mentions to sort your heating out – not sure if she means menopause or your home probably both :). Then she signs off with a big kiss X
Nice picture Mum – she’s very cheeky and confident but in a good way – she never suffered fools gladly. She has her Mum’s eyes but Dad’s nose (God help me, she coughs). She wanted to have kids, get married – then she laughs at me.
I’m not sure if she took her own life or if that’s someone else around her but whatever happened she’s now at peace and she wants you to know that she is 100% at peace and needs you to be too. She doesn’t have to worry about getting too hot or cold now. She wants to say to her Mum – I’m always around – still eating the apples and complaining, thanks for all you did for me, I really appreciate it and I’m so sorry to cause you so much pain – it still hurts me too – we’d be best buddy’s by now. I’d stop being a moaning teenager, she laughs. Seriously though, thank you – it was short but I did my best with what I had.
Love to you all. P.S. She doesn’t miss school one bit.
B xxx
P.P.S Someone around you isn’t too well, please make sure they go to the Doctor!
He’s a nice man – awe, what a nice man and to die on 11th of 2011 – there’s his sign right away that it was his time. He says there are so many people here he knows, it’s quite surprising and he never has a dull moment – not even in death and he smiles. I feel very optimistic about your future, whatever you are doing keep doing it because it is working. There are lots of changes happening all around and he’s very grateful for that. He was tired, it was time and although he wasn’t ready really, he says who is really? Who wants to stop the wonderful opportunity we get to live. He’s showing me a new baby – that was good news. The temperature for him is just right, he feels good, no worries here. He says someone’s had a cancer scare but they are OK. He wraps you all in his heart everyday and the bird song is his hello to you. And he loves the butterfly (is it a tattoo?) Well he loves it……. Happy Christmas and may 2018 be even happier love Dad xx
I’m finding it hard to breathe and swallow, I feel like she had oxygen at the end but she doesn’t want to talk about the end – she wants to talk about what a glorious life she had. Yes lots of trials and tribulations but so much love surrounding her. She felt very, very lucky and still does. She notices its July and almost another birthday to remember. She was good with birthdays, always liked a celebration or gathering. She makes me feel like maybe she was from England? She has a couple of dogs with her in heaven she says and seems happy about that. She also says to tell you, you are so organised it makes her so proud – no matter that’s going on you are organised so well done! And you have a daughter just like you. She misses you all but it was her time – 100% it was time, the old girl was tired. You’ve also been tired recently and she is prompting you to look after your health a bit better please and laugh and smile – that’s her secret to a long life – laugh and smile – be courageous, face the fear and do it anyway but laugh and smile. Give everyone a hug and make sure they all see this message please she says. Thank you, all my love Mum X (she says I can give you one kiss)
PS Oh and your Dad and I are together again at last, thank you!
He says he had a good long life – 85 never thought he’d see that, of course he would’ve liked even more – loved his family annoying him and wants to make it clear he was happy to work hard for his family (most of the time) He’s been sat on the wall for a while watching me and listening to others – he’s a man of few words really, but he says if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other it all works out anyway. Thank you for helping us and I’m proud to be your Dad Much Love (you know he still hugs you when you’re sad!)
She notices I’m pondering and comes across someone who passed away the day before her 2 years later, having attention to detail was very important to your Nan she liked things how she liked them – a bit like you but she says you are a bit more quirky than she was. Speaking properly is important to her – I may even detect a slight English/British accent.
The thing she disliked most about getting old was her eyesight failing – it has always been so good. She says her backache went the minute she passed over, it was a relief as it had never been good! I feel like you need a holiday but are at a loss on organizing something else – she says to relax and go for day trips – maybe to some of her favourite places then you will feel her closer to you and feel better again. She loves that you sent her here “Thank you” and it’s a good picture but a younger one would’ve been better she giggles – Happy Christmas Love Nan
Well I never and she’s not even in the room, “Happy Christmas my love” Thought we would be doing Christmases till we were old and grey – well you will – Ha Ha Ha he laughs “ Ok need to be serious do I ok” How are you coping my love, I know its been a tough year but you know I’m right by your side whatever you do I’m there, don’t worry so much, believe it or not there is a bigger plan, I promise things will stop being so up and down you’ll see. Then by 2019 you will wonder what all the fuss was about – Grandchildren, life will have taken over –you mark my words! Anyway Love you and looking forward to my extra smile Christmas Day – Ta Ra love till soon X
Well hello world! I’ve been waiting for my chance and I’m glad it’s today – it’s perfect. He says you are a lot like him you have his heart and his sense of humour – he chuckles. Thank you for everything you do for everyone – sometimes it’s too much, you need to remember that! I miss you all so much; I had a “good” life and thank you for your part within that. He says to remind you in your theatre of your life who is currently front and center – he bets it’s not you and if you can’t be the leading lady in your own life what hope have you got and he laughs.He wants you to never even think of how he passed, just always remember all the great times you did have, all the laughs and arguments or disagreements but anyway he says I love you long which means eternity, Merry Christmas your old Dad xxx (he says he wants to keep going with the kisses)
PS He loves all the new technology now so make sure you keep u to date 11.11 X
He’s laughing so much that this picture shows him being up staged by birds, the feathered kind unfortunately ha ha ha.
Shane has an awesome sense of humour and a gentle kind nature. He was way too young to die way, way, way – he held on for every breath the best he could but it was too late, no one could help. Look he says it’s OK I’m cool with it now.
He’s still laughing at the bird on his shoulder – photo bombing. Thanks for putting me on here, I’m grateful and I’m grateful that I am still so much a part of your family – cheers!
I’m happy everyone is moving on with life, no point in standing still is there? He doesn’t miss hard work ha ha ha but he misses being needed and loved, well you know what he means. Tell everyone to stop by here and say Hi and tell them all I send my love and I haven’t missed one thing. He mentioned a name that sounded like Kim anyway, he says to say – get back to work and he’s always watching and listening and laughing Love Shane xxxx
“Mum, really you had to post a topless picture of me and he laughs (a lot) You’ve been pretty busy since you last saw me, good on ya! Coz if life had stopped for you too much you know I would’ve just made things move even more. I know my leaving wasn’t the best or really part of the plan but hey I don’t have to worry about grey hairs. (he makes me feel Christmas time was an important time for him) He says I’m all good Mum really I am – tell my Dad too if you can.I know this will be a cool surprise Christmas message for you so say HI to everyone and don’t ever forget to set me a place but you can stop counting my birthdays now let me stay young huh! Love you Mum (I wanted to use Ma like is was a slang pet name you’d know?) PS and Dad and Sisters xx
My son, I never really felt like I fitted in my body and now I know whey – you have to remember our traditions from long ago – what we believe for your own children – you are a good man and I am very proud of you – you are doing very well – you are handsome, you get it from your mothers side. I think your life is a good one – mine was too if not a little awkward, I did learn so much to bring back to our ancestors and you are too. 2 Children may well be enough for you don’t want to over do it and please stop worrying it doesn’t solve anything. My grandson I love you X
What a proper lady she was, she could tell a joke when appropriate but being a lady was important. She liked things to be right. I’m not sure what she makes of all this but if it brings you joy she’s happy. Passing on Christmas day was a wonderful exit for her and she knew no one would be able to forget. I have a cancer feeling with her if its not hers it someone she is close to – she is most definitely not alone for sure – which makes her smile. She thanks you for being kind to her always and so supportive – I feel like she could talk to me all day with her love of her family. She says she likes my nails and you should too??? Seriously though thank you for my place at Christmas in all your hearts and remember I chose that date to stay in your hearts forever! xx
My boy, well you sure showed me didn’t you, but you know, more than that you showed “YOU” – “I’m sorry In a way I was neglectful, but in another look at your growth – wow. I did love you just not how you think love is supposed to be, I am sooooo glad you are moving on, you know I can’t stand procrastination. Please be happy I realise that’s all I really wanted for you but had a very strange, strange way of showing it. Take the trip home for me please, I’d really appreciate it. Warmest affection and love x.”
She shows me her idea of heaven is green – a beautiful enchanted garden and this is where she visits you from!
Just poppin’ in to say Hi – you’ve been busy that’s good – well done – never give up, you do a great job. As always you are too busy but I’m really glad you are moving on – it’s time. I’m still watching, always watching, never miss a thing. Keep laughing, love to everyone for Christmas. I just had to pop in and say Hi! – It’s Christmas after all, love Mum x
If you get to connect with her, can you please ask her if Pete & l are doing the right thing?xx
“Hello Love, you don’t need me to say yes or no – you know what you’re doing and always have – you always make the right decisions – always. So, more death to deal with, you should have a degree by now in how to organise a funeral and she chuckles. Oh I’m better off here – no money worries, no groceries to buy, no too hot days and bushfires. You know you’re an amazing person – perfect? No way but that’s just how it should be, lots of room to make mistakes and learn”. It’s hard to keep tuned into her because she is still so new to this. “I promise I’ll talk again”. She asks you to take care and “be happy”, that’s all that matters really! Love Mum x
(She’s disappointed I’ve stopped writing 🙂 please keep talking to her, she hears you and smiles when you feel her around).
My, my, the family has grown, you’re doing such a good job. Why do you doubt it so much? Your Dad kept you on your toes didn’t he, quite right too. I’m sorry I had to leave you but you know, only the good die young. You are so full of life, so much more than I ever dreamt for you – thank you for being you and being true to me. “I’ll always love you”
love Mum x
Mum, stop hassling the poor lass, she’s doing her best – how are you lovely – Gee, time flies. Now about all your tears, all they’re doing is making both of us sad, so dry them up – I’m OK, sure it’s hard to be so far away but YOU KNOW we will be together again, please don’t give up. It was my time, who wants to be a bald ugly old bloke….oh too late. Mum you need to stay strong, it’s what you taught me. I’m still around all the time, listen for the bird in the garden that sings all the time, it’ll make you smile, it’s a present from me. I love you all and I miss you all but if you don’t celebrate this Christmas I’ll be mad, that’s not what’s supposed to happen. You have to set me a place at the table and celebrate with everyone because you know it’s better to have loved and lost than have never loved at all and i was so blessed to have loved and been so loved (thank you). He says he has the old feller with him so he’s not on his own xxxx
23/12/16 – John says to say Hi – that’s all, just “Hi”- oh and a Merry Christmas of course x
2015 – Hello love, how’s your day? (John has a very gentle, soft, caring voice but he can raise it if anyone steps out of line – ha ha ha). Now you’re just too sad, come on it’s just not you – you’re a bright one, usually all smiles, don’t let a little thing like me not being there make you sad! I loved you then – i love you now and I’ll get to love you all over again you’ll see but ’til then let the sun keep shining for us both. I love what you’ve done with my remains – very respectful (he makes a joke as if you could’ve put him in the recycle bin.) I love you, remember that and the sun will come back you’ll see – so every time you tell me that, I’m saying it right back at you. Thank you for a wonderful life, God Bless xx
Feedback: John’s message is what I really needed. I have felt so lost without him. We had a wonderful life together. Thank you so much I appreciate what you have done, in coming into contact with John on the other side. He has many little friends there with our Charlies. They will keep him busy. You got John to a ‘T’ with a soft voice. Yes we always joked about things in life. Love and light to you also.
